I've wondered about this. With the new body, the lost marriage (ugh...he had it coming), new-found confidence, I was with a few partners. But nobody I was REALLY interested in - so telling them wasn't that big a deal, or I'd lie to them, straight up.

But anyway...it looks like a new and VERY promising relationship is underway. I told him before that I lost a bunch of weight, so that's not really my worry about the lapband. I guess I realize that there is a lot of stigma attached sometimes to people losing with surgery rather than on their own (even though - truth be told, this has been a difficult journey and even 3 months shy of 2 years out, I'm still not at goal). I have to work my azz off to lose. The GREAT thing about LB, though, is that when I get lazy and my eating relaxes, I can't gain any more than 10 lbs at a time - period. I love that. So even when I hit rough Patches, I still don't balloon like I used to.

Well, things are heating up and I'm pretty sure he could feel my port through my clothes because he kept going to that spot with his hand. But he didn't say anything...I kept distracting his hand away from there. LOL

But WHEN do you tell somebody that's going to see you naked that you got Lapband done? One partner in particular (I lied about what the actual surgery was because I didn't care about the guy - it was FWB), I told him before I'd take my shirt off because I told him I have scars. He didn't end up caring, but that was kind of expected.

I just wonder...when would you tell? Already before things started getting sexually-tense? Or right before you get naked? LOL I just can't decide.

He has noticed that I eat strangely - very little and very slow. LOL So I was thinking maybe the next time we go out to eat just bringing it up...telling him that the reason I do that is because of LB surgery.

Do what makes you comfortable...don't listen to anyone else. If you think this going somewhere, then he's going to like you no matter what! AND if he doesn't then good -bye you don't need that. You are looking great and feeling great! Keep up the GREAT work! You're an inspiration! Good luck! :seeya:)

I am jumping in rather late but, I kind of used to think about this when I first was banded a lot. I was banded over two years ago, I am a slow loser so needless to say I am only about 90 lbs lighter. I really tell everyone I meet. Dealing with guys I have decided to tell them at the very beginning. most of the time I will eat with them before any nakedness happens. So, one of my personal rules is to tell everyone I eat with in a personal setting about my band so that they dont feel weird about it. Some guys are weird though when you tell them. I have had guys who have even kissed my scars. To me, its not uncomfortable unless when I tell them they are quiet. Most will ask some questions and I just prefer to tell much before the pants are coming unzipped.

Heddy

most of the time I will eat with them before any nakedness happens

:frown: ....epic