Hi all i just got banded on 8/10/09 and wanted to know when can you have sex after the band? Sorry but i need to know. Also im just asking just to know social drinks happen when?? and am i the only one that is still on liquids for 10 more days then the pureed stage for 10 days. which means i won't eat solid food for almost 20 days is that right?? i got my surgery at nyu,hospital and they seem to really love this liquid diet. I am having a hard time drinking the two shakes a day. I am not hungry at all but mostly because i am afraid to drink anything. All this talk about band opening and stuff has me scared. its bad but today i had a meltdown and had to cry. I'm just looking for some answers and if you do pureed how is it going?? and what are you eating??:sad:

My doc said no sex for two weeks. I waited alittle bit extra, just in case! My doc also said to refrain from alcohol for a year.

You need to ask your surgeon; they are all different and he will have advice tailored to you, your situation, his experience with his patients (based on his skills etc) so do as he says.

I was told to resume sexual activity whenever I felt comfortable/ ready.

Definitely ask Dr. Fielding. He's my surgeon as well and I know that he's actually a proponent of alcohol (not sure when we get to start though).

When is your post op appointment? I had my post-op a week after surgery and was able to move onto mushies two days early, but only because they said I could after seeing me.

I know it's hard to get down the Protein shakes especially when you're not hungry. I used a spoon and it helped to get them down easier. My surgery was on 8/7 and I felt horrible until Thursday. Today I feel GREAT! It will get better!

Good luck!!

Jen

My doctor didn't bring up the subject but I did the deed 4 days after the surgery. If you feel okay and are in the mood. go for it..

I had a check up 8 days after surgery and was given the go-ahead for all "activities," but I waited until yesterday (day 17) for sex mainly because I wasn't feeling so sexy with all the black and blue marks and redness. By the time we did the deed, I had gone a good three days without any soreness so I had absolutely no problems with any position or any sexual activity.

As for drinking, haven't done it yet, but boy am I craving a glass of red wine. My doc said wine was ok but didn't say when I could have it. Figuring I was a lightweight before surgery, I've decided to wait until I am on solid food before drinking (I am on puree right now) because I heard most people get tipsy more easily after being banded.

Thank you all very helpful, what are you guys eating in the mushy stage??

jenny thats good to hear that you have Dr.Feilding, did you do the xray?? how was it? well how was what you had to drink is what im really asking? i go back on tuesday so i will ask about the wine, lol..i loved your blog. very helpful, well enjoy your first day back to work.

For purees right now I am eating baby food (I use lots of herbs and spices to make the bland chicken palatable) and mashed potatoes. I bought the premade refrigerated roasted garlic mashed potatoes from Shed's Spread. Very good and easy to measure out and nuke. For breakfast, I puree egg beater egg whites, canned tuna and avocado. 1/4-1/2 c of that keeps me full for hours.

thank you bookwm so helpful

Thanks Jojo. I actually did the esophogram just before my post op one week after surgery. I was worried about the stuff too, but it was nothing. The taste wasn't bad and you don't have to drink a ton of it. You'll be fine!

Hi, Jojo! I go to Dr. Ren (Dr. Fielding's partner and wife -- though my surgery was in MX with Dr. Rumbaut) and they are OK with alcohol in moderation. Definitely check with them on timing though.

The shakes are pretty gross -- I hated them, so I got Isopure Protein drinks (taste/look like Gatoraid) from GNC, which was SO much better (42 grams of protein, zero carbs). That did the trick.

As for good mushies, you can still have everything you had during liquids (Soups really carried me through liquids & mushies), and other things I enjoyed were mashed potatoes, refried Beans with cheese, pureed turkey chili, cottage cheese, and yogurt.

Best wishes for your success!

Catherine

I really hope that my post about my infection did not get you totally down, I am shocked that i even got one. I think I am a strange individual case. My doctor didn't stitch my incision together (top layer) but glued it wich I wonder is part of the problem?

My doctor had us on a liquid diet for 2 wks post-op and 2 wks mushie food diet wich is 28 days. Sounds like yours is a little more lenient.

As for the main subject I think the other gals are right,,, do it when you are comfortable. I don't think there's anything wrong with making them wait. When it happens then they will appreciate it more

Hi... I had surgery on 8 5 09 and my husband and I had sex on the 8th of august. Dr Duncan here in Atlanta did my surgery and said that I could have sex whenever i felt up to it. I am due to start the soft phase of my diet on wednesday but started it today instead and will let Dr Duncan know when i see him on the 24th.... I have lost 18 pounds so far and started exercising on Saturday. ..Good Luck with everything!!!!!!!!!!

The packet I got from my doc said I could resume sexual "relations" as soon as I felt able.