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So, I am newly single since my husband found an old girlfriend, and I am ready to re-enter the dating scene. The problem is, my body is melting and I am very, very self conscious. I am a very sexual person, and enjoy a very healthy sex life (or I would like to again) but the thought of being naked in front of a new person makes me want to scream. I am down about 60 lbs., and everything just went South immediately. I am still pretty far from plastic surgery time, but I will explode if I don't "get some" soon. I just don't know if I can take my clothes off in front of a new man without feeling disgusted. Any thoughts, ladies?

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hey there.. nothing is sexier than confidence! But I do realize how difficult it can be. My suggestion is keep the lights off :crying: .. I still don't want my hubby to see me naked although he is constantly trying..lol. I feel like after my plastic surgery then I will be naked all the time. Good luck and get some girl!!!

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You'll probably be dating guys that aren't muscle men and don't have perfect bodies either.

It's not like I go running around naked in front of my bf, but I have no trouble under the sheets. By the time you find someone you care enough to have sex with, your looks won't be as important to you ( hopefully)

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raises hand....pick me!!! pick me!!! haha. I hear ya on what your going through and i am sorry your husband left you. you will find someone again and be happy again. keep your head up!

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raises hand....pick me!!! pick me!!! haha. I hear ya on what your going through and i am sorry your husband left you. you will find someone again and be happy again. keep your head up!

this made me giggle.. very cute post! :rolleyes2:

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You may be surprised... my new SO LOVES my body... and I still have a long way to go! I am starting to love it myself. It can happen. :biggrin:

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I hear you... I actually had more confidence when I was fat and am becoming more self-conscious as I lose the weight. When I was at my largest, I was into casual sex and I deliberately sought out guys who liked fat women. I figured if they didn't like the body, well bugger them and I never got paranoid about showing off my size. Now that I've lost the weight and I'm in a relationship with someone that I care about deeply, I'm finding that I REALLY REALLY care about his opinion and I'm very self-conscious about the sags and bags. He's wonderful at reassurance, but it's a strange headspace to be in...

My suggestion: LINGERIE!! It hides a multitude of sins and can really help you to feel sexy! (Okay, I just love sexy lingerie and any excuse will do! :()

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ksill you are too funny.... CMM I can understand your feelings, but I think men like naked women... period! I think there are a few men who are picky, but your average run of the mill man likes boobs and the works, they are not looking at flaws...

Now go out there and get some lovin' !

amy

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My husband seems to like my "wobbly bits". It bothers me, but he gets so turned on, I seem to forget about it after a while. We've been in love for a very long time, so it's not quite your situation, but once you find just the right person, it won't matter so much anymore. He's gained weight and aged right along with me, so "we're even". I don't see his flaws, he still makes me horny, so I doubt he sees mine.

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My husband bought me a string bikini. I'm still 237 lbs and not that sexy feeling. every time i put it on, BOING he's rock hard. find something that you may feel sexy in

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My husband bought me a string bikini. I'm still 237 lbs and not that sexy feeling. every time i put it on, BOING he's rock hard. find something that you may feel sexy in

thats awesome....i bet your husband likes the fact that you are putting on what he bought you......you go!!!! good for you......most times when i buy my wife something she fights it and basically i dont want her to wear it at all after that.

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From my experience, most guys just really don't notice or care about our flaws!

I can only speak for me, but I daresay that most men are like me: that is, sex with a real live woman trumps any "flaws" you have. Men are visual creatures....if they are erect, then they're liking what they see (or are touching, if in the dark).

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