Just like the words of a blues song:

I had me a woman

I cute as can be

I came home from havin'

Weight loss surgery

She done packed up her bags

And taken my son

I got me no money

Damn, what have I done?

At least she didn't take the dog. Not that I have one. But if I did, I guess that wouldn't be here either.

As I read through the many books on having weight loss surgery - I couldn't help but hover over the chapters on the way this kind of thing could have an impact on relationships. In so much as it can strengthen a strong bond - but destroy a weak one.

I guess I saw it coming. I kept my thoughts from her for several months before I made my decision to have the surgery - after which I told her.

A word of warning for those that are thinking about this - it might be worth making the decision WITH your partner rather than on your own. Perhaps I was selfish in making one of my biggest life decisions on my own. Or perhaps it was teh way it was meant to be. Either way - I have come clean with everyone I know - let's await the flack!

Ben, you have such a great attitude, you're good looking, and witty. You'll have them lined up at your door before you know it.

You're right about the accent and us American's though, it just sounds so adorable.

Good luck to you and keep up with the possitive attitude, it will serve you well.

Sorry to hear about your circumstances, but word to the wise, which I am sure you already are aware of. Communication is key, so you already know that communication was lacking in this relationship. The WLS was one of other reasons why your relationship failed.

Lastly, men have a tendency to jump right back into a relationship without given themselves an opportunity to reflect upon what happened in the last relationship.

Ben, before you go out looking for that American woman, treat yourself right by giving yourself time get over the last relationship and to wrap your head around your WLS journey.

Really, both of events are major life changing activities and you deserve sometime to recover from both.

Best wishes!

Beset of luck to you Ben....

it sounds like you will be a great role model for your son, and that is something he will definetly need!!

It's sad to say, but some people are better apart then togeather, this is a hard journey to make, but I think it would be even harder with an unsupportive spouse.

Now you have time to focus on becoming healthy and being the best dad you can be!

~I need to find me an American!~ ...Come on Ben !!! What about us Canadian girls ?? :confused:

Seriously tho.. Your attitude will get you far. Take the time to look after yourself, everyone in your life will benefit from it.

Congrats on your surgery and all the best for an amazingly successful journey !!!

Patricia

I am so sorry to hear about what you are going through, too. But it sounds like you have the right attitude. Best wishes to you!