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lesliewelsh: I'm also 58 and from Pennsylvania - what area are you from? There aren't many of us (age wise) on these boards although there is a special age forum. We are battling slowing metabolism, menopause and a whole host of other problems of the aging body. But willpower doesn't work. It's like holding your breath - you can only do it so long.

To Cleo's Mom: I am from Evans City, PA. Where in PA are you from? I had my banding Dec. 1 ay Allegheny General Hospital. I am a little frustrated with my progress. I can't wait until my next fill. I'm waiting for that much-desired full feeling. I am still able to eat more than I should. It's just by sheer will-power that I have lost weight at all. Take care.

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At first I only told family, but as the weight loss became obvious I told a few friends and boy I wish I hadn't cause now I'm under the microscope. I even had a couple of friends get offended that I hadn't told them earlier. I wish I'd only told my husband and left it at that. The other day I went into my mom's Sunday school class before it started to tell her something, she was eating a doughnut and I said oh yum, where did you get that? She reacted with this huge shock and loudly said 'You can't have doughnuts!' which of course caused all the other old ladies around her to turn and look at me and made me feel like I was a 10 year old. *sigh* I wish I'd kept it a secret, anybody have a time machine?

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I do lose better when I eat low carb. But that is just me. I know not everyone loses the same. As far as not eating carbs at all, that's not going to happen!

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What I don't get is this preconceived notion that whoever has the band "throws up after every meal". Do you know how many people think that?

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What I don't get is this preconceived notion that whoever has the band "throws up after every meal". Do you know how many people think that?

Where in the heck did they get THAT idea?! That's CRAZY!!

<sigh> I hate people.

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Until I started reading this board, I had no idea how many people "PB" and get food stuck. They could be thinking of that.

Part of the weight loss process is also feeling better about yourself. I don't care if it's your mother or your co-worker, tell them you can watch your own diet thank you very much.

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Yep. I sure do.

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OMG, I sooo feel all of you in this forum. My DH does the same thing. He is trying to be helpful and I know he is but it is ANNOYING. We were at Breakfast yesterday and I ordered 1 egg and a small slice of ham and I didn't even eat HALF of it and he was like "Why are you forcing it, you know you shouldn't eat that" I got so mad. I'm still an adult and I know that ham isn't the best of Protein choices which is why I spent an hour and a half in the gym yesterday and lost .5 pounds for the day by compensating with healthier choices during lunch and dinner. SOOO annoying UGH!! To play Devil's Advocate though, I have talked to him about me being scared to fail and I know he is only looking out for me, it's just the WAY people say things.

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My husband would have gotten mad if that's all I ordered. Then he would have gotten mad if I didn't eat it all.

I'd like to have a long talk with your husband.

It won't be pretty.

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This is exactly why I am not telling anyone but my husband and my two best friends. They won't say anything about what I eat. My husband is just worried about how I'm feeling not what I'm eating. But I know most of my friends and family would be watching every bite I put in my mouth. These posts have really helped me feel better about not tellling!

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I sure would like to join in on that talk with her husband... but.... I might need bail money if I did. I told all of my family and friends. They are so very supportive and don't question me or watch me - they know I know what I am doing and know that they have vices of their own. They also know I look forward to their words of encouragement and don't really want to hear anything negative - so they keep that to themselves. Guess I'm lucky!! Good luck to you all!!! Becky

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For me it is my DH. It is not my choices in food that I hear about from him, but that I need to take small bites and chew it up. I get tired of hearing it, but I do know he doesn't want me to get stuck. I did the other day and I had my first PB and it grossed and freaked him out. He worries more than I do about me getting stuck.

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Ugh. My mom had bypass and now that I have a band she micromanages my eating habits. I keep trying to tell her that I know how big of a bite I can manage, and it's not necessarily the same as what she can manage. EVERYTIME I eat around her she's like "chew it up good now! don't forget to chew it all up!" What am I? 2 years old? She also doesn't understand that I don't get dumping syndrome so yes, I can eat that stupid little cookie and not worry about it. She also freaks out because I'm of the belief that I will not deprive myself of something that I want and I will not tell myself I can never have something again. She also doesn't understand that because I have no fill yet I'm still restricted, but probably not as much as I should be so I can eat a little more than she can with bypass. But, you can't tell her any of that because she had bypass and is the absolute authority on WLS! So annoying!

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      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
      Soooo I am coming to a realization
      of something and I'm not sure what to do about it. For years the only thing I've enjoyed is eating. We rarely do anything or go anywhere and if we do it always includes food. Family comes over? Big family dinner! Go camping? Food! Take a short ride or trip? Food! Holiday? Food! Go out of town for a Dr appointment? Food! When we go to a new town we don't look for any attractions, we look for restaurants we haven't been to. Heck, I look forward to getting off work because that means it's almost supper time. Now that I'm drinking these pre-op shakes for breakfast, lunch, and supper I have nothing to look forward to.  And once I have surgery on June 11th it'll be more of the same shakes. Even after pureed stage, soft food stage, and finally regular food stage, it's going to be a drastic change for the rest of my life. I'm giving up the one thing that really brings me joy. Eating. How do you cope with that? What do you do to fill that void? Wow. Now I'm sad.
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        Life as a big person had limited my life to what I knew I could manage to do each day. That was eat. I hadn't anything else to look forward to. So my eating choices were the best I could dream up. I planned the cooking in managable lots in my head and filled my day with and around it.

        Now I have a whole new big, bigger, biggest, best days ever. I am out there with those skinny people doing stuff i could never have dreamt of. Food is now an after thought. It doesn't consume my day. I still enjoy the good home cooked food but I eat smaller portions. I leave food on my plate when I am full. I can no longer hear my mother's voice saying eat it all up, ther are starving children in Africa who would want that!

        I still cook for family feasts, I love cooking. I still do holidays but I have changed from the All inclusive drinking and eating everything everyday kind to Self catering accommodation. This gives me the choice of cooking or eating out as I choose. I rarely drink anymore as I usually travel alone now and I feel I need to keep aware of my surroundings.

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