First of all Im sorry to break into your forum,but I dont know what else to do.I have read most of the post made in this forum and you all seem so sexually liberated that reading some of this stuff actually makes me horney.About me:I was banded in Jan.2008 and have lost 77 pounds.Before my weight loss I had some problems in the sex department,if you get my drift.But those seem to have worked themselves out.Now, the problem.My wife of 29 years has formed a relationship with an "out of the closet homo"She swears that trhe relationship is just friendship.But there seems to be more to it than that to me.She spends the night with her Watching movies, she says,They also make weekend trips together.I suppose that the last straw was when she went away for the weekend with her on the weekend of our anniversery and never gave me a card or anything.This has been going on since about Feb.of this year and Im at the end of my rope.there is no need to spend the night with her only 5 miles away and leave me home to sleep alone in our bed.We have not had sex in about 5 months.I think that im the only one in this threeway thats not getting any.It is against my principals to have an affair,but that is where im headed.I have a lady friend that is single and made it plain that she is there when ever I decide I need her,but that is just not me.Please give me your comments and suggestions for my problem.Thanks

Fireman,

I'm so glad you are updating us on your situation!

I have wondered what is happening and sending you my sincere and most supportive e-thoughts.

How has all this been affecting your weight loss journey?

Fireman,

I'm so glad you are updating us on your situation!

I have wondered what is happening and sending you my sincere and most supportive e-thoughts.

How has all this been affecting your weight loss journey?

Not doing to bad.trying to maintain my focus.went to Dr. last wednesday and got a fill.now have 7.5cc in a 14 cc band and lost another 6 pounds gives me a total of 74 pounds since Jan.21

That's great!!

That's great!!

Thanks! When I get back down to my old body I might try posing for one of those firefighter "beefcake" calenders

Yea, that's a good idea!

Thanks! When I get back down to my old body I might try posing for one of those firefighter "beefcake" calenders

That's the spirit!!!

Please please please seek professional counseling before filing for divorce. There's an awesome support group called Divorce Care that alot of churches sponsor. It's for people who are separated, thinking about divorce or divorced. I didn't find out about it until a year after my divorce and it was still so helpful. I wish I would have had that support sooner. Good luck with everything and try to make calm, rational decisions not just react in anger. :tongue_smilie:

Not much changed since my last update.they're going off for a weekend the weekend of April 3.Thats ok with me it gives me some time to do someone else (I mean something else)No communication here (sex)since last Sept.Kinda like living with my sister.But,Im not leaving my house and everey thing Ive worked for for 40 years.Im trying to make her leave,but not much hope of that,we have a very nice house and a lot of nice stuff.Why would she give up her pie when she can eat it too:tt2:

The good part is Ive lost 100 pounds since my surgery 14 months ago and ,if I say so myself,Im beginning to look pretty damn good.Not nearly as unattractive to the opposite sex as she thinks I am.

The good part is Ive lost 100 pounds since my surgery 14 months ago and ,if I say so myself,Im beginning to look pretty damn good.Not nearly as unattractive to the opposite sex as she thinks I am.

Congratulations on the 100lbs loss! That is awesome.

Sorry about everything else. My prayers and thoufgts are with you.

Wow, your situation is tough. If anyone had good reason to have an affair it would be you. Your wife sounds like she's turned into a real piece of work. :crying:

I'm glad you're getting out, I hope you can do so without losing too much. Like everyone has said, be sure to get good legal advice!!!

Start hoarding cash. Find a safe place to stash it, where she won't look. Cancel any joint credit cards or lines of credit.

hi fireman

just wanted to say we are here for you,god bless..

Start hoarding cash. Find a safe place to stash it, where she won't look. Cancel any joint credit cards or lines of credit.

Im way ahead of you.I have income from some gas wells that was on family property and she cant touch any of that.

hi fireman

just wanted to say we are here for you,god bless..

Its really getting to be sorta fun now that I dont give a s@#% anymore.Going places and she cant find me.Burning up my cell and I dont answer.Im beginning to get a kick out of her.