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I get it now. When she said I got one, she meant she had a question.

Now I get why she asked if it's worth the money. That is one expensive gadget. There has to be something more affordable that will do the trick.

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Brad,

I have the mirena, and my husband didn't notice the strings, but my doctor also cut them fairly short when it was implanted.

He really didn't like the nuva ring when I was on it several years ago, and I didn't give him a choice this time with the mirena, lol.

As far as the eroscillator. Yes, it is expensive, but it comes highly recommended, and it will probably last for several years. I usually end up spending quite a bit on buying luxury sex toys since quality does really count. I think you can also buy the standard eroscillator and not have to purchase every attachment as there are a lot.

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Thanks cattoy!

I think getting the strings trimmed will be the next course of action. I despise those things!

And speaking of women and self pleasure. I don't remember what the thing was called, but Howard Stern had this device that looked like the women were on a bucking bronco. The women just melted in orgasms. I looked it up online at the time and it was big money!

Brad

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Since I don't have between $100-$200 to spend right now, can someone else recommend something more affordable?

What about that purple thing that was posted on here awhile back. It looked strange to me, like I wouldn't know how to use it. it looked like it had a vibe on each end and curved around or under? Sort of like a U shape?

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Thanks cattoy!

And speaking of women and self pleasure. I don't remember what the thing was called, but Howard Stern had this device that looked like the women were on a bucking bronco. The women just melted in orgasms. I looked it up online at the time and it was big money!

Brad

Heh, me thinks the toy you are talking about is called a sybian. Very expensive, something like 1500k. A couple perverts out here in San Francisco advertise on craigslist all the time under sex partners. They own them and pay women to come over and give them private masturbation shows.

Oregon,

Most people loooove their Hitachi Magic Wand and it goes for about 50 bucks. The purple "rock chick" has gotten pretty decent reviews....it's shaped kinda like a sideways U and it sells for around $60.

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Yah! Sybian that's it! That thing is wicked! I sure as hell wouldn't want to have to compete with something like that in the house! :biggrin:

Brad

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Maybe i'm just cheap, but even though i have some toys, ranging in size, shape and texture, i prefer a nice warm bath. In the right position and the right Water temperature, it's a great way to start the day! Relaxing yet it energizes me for the day.

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I was wondering if there is a site, not a porn site, but a site that has something like reviews but also you can ask questions about products, videos, etc.

At the end of Feb hubby is being transferred, I am staying here since he is only getting transferred 3 hours away. He will come home on the weekends. For xmas i got him a gift that is for both of us. Today I was again shopping on adam and eve, i like how they have reviews, but i had questions about some of the items that the reviews dont answer. Some products are quite pricey, since I have questions, I don't feel comfortable spending too much money on something I'm unsure about.

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I am the same way. The reviews on some of the stuff is mixed. I bet if you called the 800 number they might be able to answer questions. I don't want to spend too much either

as I have ordered things that have ended up being worthless.

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It is hard to tell how well a product works because everyone likes different things. There are clone-a-willy and clone-a-pussy kits that are pretty fun. I have lots of toys and have gone to stores and talked to the sells people about products...I know a few things if you ever have any questions you can ask me on here or private message and I will do my best to help :)

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i did get the clone a willy in our "us" package. I haven't seen the clone a pussy.

i thought about getting him a vid. I knwo what he enjoys watching, but i just can't bring myself to do it. It makes me feel so inferior. I know, I know, it's just a video. And I'm real and all. We watch porn together, I know he watches it here on days off while i'm at work. But for some reason I am not comfortable providing it for him. Which opens up all these self loathing feelings for being so insecure and reminds me of how huge and nasty i feel.

sorry to go off on that...there are some vids that i've seen that i think i may be able to get for him, i read the reviews, i look at some of the pix, but i have more questions....i think i'll just stick with buying him toys or whatever, and he can look at porn online.

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You should just record him a video of your own :laugh: I did that for my hubby a few times... ;) lol I buy my hubby porn and most of the time we watch it together...

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I just found this stie and I can't believe I am going to talk about this here. I've been reading this board ever since I got my band but I am kind of shy because I have never talked about my sex life in a public place. But I guess it's okay here since nobody can see my red face!

Does anyone know, (maybe the sex educator?) why it used to be easier for me to have an orgasm? It was never really easy, but I could have them. Now, it's like I am numb or something. Things that used to work for my husband to give me one don't work anymore.

I am afraid of our sex life is going to go away because my husband is starting to have a complex about it.

Does going through the change of life mean that orgams are a thing of the past? My husband says I never needed a vibrator before, and is afraid if we get one, I won't want him anymore or something. We used to be so close, and all of this is really scaring me. I thought losing weight would help with all of this but it's made no difference other than my husbands wants to do it more, and gets upset when I can't orgasm. I really don't want to start to fake them!

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