I'm frustrated. I can't seem to get this right. I have to try just as hard as I did before I had the surgery to lose weight. I know this is a tool to help me and not the quick cure. I guess despite all my efforts to remind myself of this I thought I'd be thinner by now.

Yes I got the surgery for my health and that has improved but I still weigh 300 lbs.

76 pnds lighter than when I started this journey but no where near where I need want to be. I feel this awkward pressure from my family and friends that I should be losing weight faster. Like I'm some failed --before and after-- commercial.

Does any of this make sense. Please let me know I'm not alone!!:biggrin:

Ever go to the meat counter and line up 76 pounds of pork loin? Its possible they don't even have that much put out for purchase. That is an INCREDIBLE achievement and you are to be commended! Next time you go to the store, do this. Line up as close to 76 pounds of pork loin as you can and look at it. Touch it. Move it around in your hands. FEEL what it feels like to NOT have that on your body anymore. It is very validating!

If your family and friends are pressuring you, remind them that it did not come on overnight and isn't going to come off overnight either. It is also not uncommon for the very obese to need a second surgery after lap-band to get the rest of the weight off. Only time will tell. Be patient with yourself. Yes, you are anxious to see fast results, that is understandable. When that feeling of angst kicks in, reassure yourself that you are already on your way. Nobody gets in the car to drive from New York to San Diego and gets upset halfway through Nebraska that they aren't there yet. They know they have the map and are on the road and its going to take as long as it is going to take.

You are doing fantastic. If you aren't attending support groups I suggest you start doing so now. You need to be around others that are not going to fuel that feeling of wanting it all right now, but who understand how long, tedious and tenacious this journey is.

Edited October 21, 200817 yr by gentylwind

I am finding that I am eating more and more lately also. My surgery was 7/01 and I have lost 64 pounds, with which I am very pleased. I am also off all diabetic and blood pressure meds since surgery so am much healthier than I thought possible this soon. But.......I am now reaching the point where I always get bored and revert to bad habits and am having to fight harder each day to stick to the program. The last time I lost any weight, about 30 pounds in 2004, I lasted about 3-4 months and then the holidays came and I gained it all back plus a few. So I am concerned. :smile:

I wish to luck and success with your efforts! :biggrin:

Leigh

76 pounds is great!! try not to focus on the total amount of weight you want to lose, but at what you have accomplished thus far. And not every victory is tied to that # on the scale either. I'm sure losing 76 pounds you've noticed clothes feeling looser and are starting to be able to do things you couldn't do before. These message boards are great for support, but it can also be discouraging when you see others losing weight faster. I've fallen into that trap myself. I've been losing at a much slower rate, and so finally decided just to not get on the scale for a while. I remind myself that the goal is to be healthier, and I am, and so are you!! Like the other posters have said.. it's not a race.. you're on the right track. Keep your chin up and keep on making good choices!!