It seems I'm window dressing. I really should be offended. I really should, but I'm not.

We just had clients (man & wife) leave from meeting with one of my brokers (I work in finance - and my broker's are my guys - love my guys). Anyway, they get done with the meeting and are leaving. I smile and tell them to have a nice day.

The gentleman smiles and turns around to my broker and says, "She dresses the place up, doesn't she?". I should be pissed, such a sexist statement. Sexism rules! I haven't had a compliment like that in so long I'm on cloud nine! Six months ago I wouldn't have gotten a second look.

I've been looking for motivation and damn if that wasn't a good start. Oh, and if I were the wife - the husband would have gotten smacked up side the head and would be in the D-O-G house.

One of my bosses once told me that my hair looked nice that day. I took it as a compliment, but his boss overheard him say it and he got into trouble, because it was considered harrassment. I didn't take it that way. I think some of these things get taken way out of hand.

Harrassment over hair? Come on, give me a break! Now if he said your ass looked good in the pants you are wearing today - that'd be bad....well, I'd probably like that too. I'm shallow. LOL - I never have a good hair day (sulking at my desk and trying to tame it). It's so nice to get a compliment...I wish your bosses boss would have let you enjoy it - I hope you still did though!

Hyperbole perhaps, not lying. And do I detect just a hint of sarcasm?

Spoken like a true bibliophile, tap. I'm one too.

Ok I would post my view in here but being a man it would not be a very PC remark! that being said Leslie enjoy the remark you are a hot one! good job on all the weight loss!!! :biggrin:

Leslie's getting hit on! Leslie's getting hit on!!

Now if he said your ass looked good in the pants you are wearing today - that'd be bad....well, I'd probably like that too.

That's not harassment......or I never would have said it to my grandma!

Plain - I really think there are some deeply emotional issues you may need to address with that last statement. LOL My couch is open...I do charge by the hour...and can promise you'll leave better than you walked in. Wait, I don't have a psychology license - better rethink that statement - it could definately be misinterpreted! Shame on you for even thinking it!

As for Renob - what a sweet man!

Leslie, the last time I took somebody up on that offer, I had to scrape up bail money!!

I know it is not PC----but have to say, I agree with Plain!!! Not something I would see or interpret as sexism. Just a compliment---a complimentary way of acknowledging you were there, and noticed.

As for smacking my DH upside the head for saying it.....my DH is not the type who would EVER say that to anyone, he is on the quiet side (and married to me!!!!!!) But if he were to say something like that in my presence I would feel like he obviously did not think it a comment he needed to hide----or would not have said it with me there. I mean I know there are things he talks about and language he uses with his friends that he cleans up for me, so if he were to say or do something with me there, I think he would mean nothing by it.

But then again, I am the one pointing out the painted on tops when we hit the bike rallies, he is oblivious!!! Well not oblivious, just not real observant----when pointed out, he definitely looks!!! LOL

Enjoy it in the spirit it was given----you deserve it!

Kat

Kat, I find that since I have lost weight, I am the one pointing out the hot chicks myself. Too funny. I am totally heterosexual, but good looking women are just pretty to look at. OMGosh, did I just type that!! Definately not PC.

I know it is not PC----but have to say, I agree with Plain!!!

Just because I have such a bizarre sense of humor....being PC means we agree with Plain?? As charming a man as he undoubtably is, PC is not the descriptor I would use!!

Ya'll I definately took it as a compliment! It did make my day, no matter how I interpreted it - it was meant in honesty. He's such a nice many anyway.

Kat - I know DH looks - I've caught him. It used to really bother me (thus the head smacking). If I ever point anyone out - he looks around and gets that blank look on his face and asks who? LOL it is quite funny. As I've lost weight - my self perception has changed. I've noticed though the more comfortable I am in my skin the more his looking doesn't bother me anymore. Now he definately hates it when I get looks now from other men - he's never been jealous before. He's getting better about it though. It is an interesting turn of events.

Renewed - LOL...I know what you mean. Instead of viewing those women in envy now I'm thinking a little more the lines of competition...I may even eat at Hooters one day.

Too funny thread...I would be happy if someone paid me that kind of compliment, Leslie :wub:

It's funny what people react to...when I was a lifeguard, I had many, many comments made about my body (which was in MUCH better shape then). Mostly about my bustline, which is impossible to hide in a form-fitting swimsuit :eek: I didn't mind much, and mostly deflected the compliments with a simple "thank you".

The only time I went gangsta is if the compliment crossed the line into sleaze - like the time a guy reached over a fence at me with both hands extended like he wanted to squeeze the girls - he got pimp-slapped with everything I had!:redface: Being nearly 6 feet tall and broad-shouldered, it was quite a bit - and his reputation suffered because I literally knocked him to his knees... :thumbup:

I am all for good-natured teasing, and have done some of it myself. DH tends to lean toward athletic types, but he's a leg and boob man (in that order) so a gorgeous pair of gams will get his head turning. Tina Turner lights his fire, but so did Lynda Carter (Wonder Woman), Janet Jackson, Queen Latifah, and several other full-figured tall women I could name. :w00t:

I felt more threatened by this when I was less sure of MYSELF, but now that I'm working out more regularly, and the band is looming in my future (YAY) I'm more secure (most of the time)...

I don't mind being noticed, just keep it clean and no touching!

[Plain] PC is not the descriptor I would use!!

What!! I'm a new-age sensitive PC dude. Just ask my be-yotch.

Ya'll I definately took it as a compliment!

C'mon Leslie! Quit griping about it and enjoy the compliment! lol

Ok, DH plays the guitar. He bought me a tshirt that says, "Support Local music, Sleep with a musician." I wore it Saturday and went to the Barbeque place. The owner said, "I play in a band, and I sing lead vocals. That should count for 2 shouldn't it". OMGosh I was so embarrassed. That would not be considered PC, but neither would my tshirt. I guess I asked for that one. DH was beaming with pride. I was beaming with embarrassment. I must admit though, the compliment felt dang good. A year ago he definately would have ignored the shirt. A year ago DH wouldn't have bought me the shirt. Oh how my life has changed!!

Renewed - that is awesome! Wear it with pride girl - you've worked so hard...it is amaising how the little things really do go a long way.

....but honestly, what's so sexist about "Fetch me a TV dinner, Be-yotch" ?!?

That's not called "sexism". It's called "motive".

...I may even eat at Hooters one day.

I like Hooters.

Uh - the restaurant. (Felt the need to clarify.)

LOL at Glou - I'd drop the frozen TV dinner in his lap on my way out the door to get my OWN dinner...