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I asked this in another area but did not get the answer I am looking for. I am married and we have a very healthy sex life:wink_smile: I am worried about once the port is placed is there anything that I may need to do to make sure that I do not threaten the placement of the port? No one can seem to answer this for me so far. And I have not been able to ask my doc's office about it...:cool2::blushing:

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well...I will say that for me...I haven't had any problems. I asked my doctor before the surgery and he said that when I was comfortable enough...then there wasn't any reason not to carry on as usual. It's been a little more than two months since my surgery...and everything has been all good. I think we took two weeks off right after the surgery...but that's it.

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I started back about 3 weeks out and it was all good lol! I actually asked my GYN because she has had the surgery herself and she said that I could do anything that didn't cause me any discomfort. If you do feel pain then just get on top and that should take care of it:)

Many people have problems with their port healing properly so only you will know how your port feels. I didn't have any problems with my port healing. My port is about 3-4 inches below my bra and I like it there. My bra doesn't rub against my port and neither does my jeans.

I hope this helps. Wishing you all the best!!!!!!!!!!

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As my pants get a little too big the waist does rub against my scar, it was red for about 2 days until I realized what was going on... as far as sex after surgery its fine...do it when you feel able.

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It so funny you should discuss this subject...about two months ago I got paranoid because me and my partner got a lil raunchy in the bedroom. I swore that band slipped because I felt no restriction. I called my surgeon and his nurse told me when I can't hold food down then that would be an indicator. I'm ok and a girl just like getting worked out a lil sumthing behind closed doors. :thumbup:

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Nice to know ladies! I'm going to be banded on January 22nd and my hubby was very interested in this! Thanks for your answers.

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The only thing I would say is be careful with doggystyle for a few weeks as you stretch your stomach muscles somewhat and a sharp pain can come out of nowhere...other than that try whatever you like and if it hurts move around! :-)

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I remember asking my nurse 3 weeks after surgery if I could participate in "adult activities?" He looked at me sidways as asked me "what are you referring to, cause there are a lot of things adults do." He then went on to say, "for the first month, let him do all the work, and you just lay back and enjoy." Now, I can't say that the statement was too appropriate coming from my nurse, but that was all I needed to hear. LOL! That is just what I did. I have instructions, and enjoyed.

So do what works for you. I say take my nurses advice. :laugh:

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Well, ladies my husband thinks that I'm his new play toy...LOL! He ain't no good at all! I finally figured out what his game plan is: he get me all rowled up then watch me go for it...nasty I tell you and down right sneaky!

Have fun lady's it ALL GOOD and getting better!

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I love this post. And it cracks me up how nicely you all are talking about such a dirty subject!!!!!!!!!!!!!! love it

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Banded 15 months ago and no troubles with my port, band, or scars..... Adult activites are as normal as ever with no probs- better stamina on my part, but no issues - lol

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      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
      Soooo I am coming to a realization
      of something and I'm not sure what to do about it. For years the only thing I've enjoyed is eating. We rarely do anything or go anywhere and if we do it always includes food. Family comes over? Big family dinner! Go camping? Food! Take a short ride or trip? Food! Holiday? Food! Go out of town for a Dr appointment? Food! When we go to a new town we don't look for any attractions, we look for restaurants we haven't been to. Heck, I look forward to getting off work because that means it's almost supper time. Now that I'm drinking these pre-op shakes for breakfast, lunch, and supper I have nothing to look forward to.  And once I have surgery on June 11th it'll be more of the same shakes. Even after pureed stage, soft food stage, and finally regular food stage, it's going to be a drastic change for the rest of my life. I'm giving up the one thing that really brings me joy. Eating. How do you cope with that? What do you do to fill that void? Wow. Now I'm sad.
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      1. summerseeker

        Life as a big person had limited my life to what I knew I could manage to do each day. That was eat. I hadn't anything else to look forward to. So my eating choices were the best I could dream up. I planned the cooking in managable lots in my head and filled my day with and around it.

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        I still cook for family feasts, I love cooking. I still do holidays but I have changed from the All inclusive drinking and eating everything everyday kind to Self catering accommodation. This gives me the choice of cooking or eating out as I choose. I rarely drink anymore as I usually travel alone now and I feel I need to keep aware of my surroundings.

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