I am having my band fitted on Friday

debbles · July 7, 2008

Hey all. I am Debbie and I live in England. I can't find any support groups over here so I am turning to you. From what I gather the pre op routine is slightly different but I am sure the post op will have to be the same. During my psych evaluation, the shrink told me to tell everyone and anyone to gain support. I think she is crazy. She insisted I tell my teenage boys just in case i did not come out the other side. My 15 vyr old is now terrified and my 17 yr old is embarassed. gee thanks. and no I did not tell every stranger I passed. Just my other half and a few close friends. Oh and my sister, who has her own eating demons. She was anorexic.:tt1:

Susanna · July 7, 2008

Hi Debbie,

I'm in the UK too.

My shrink also told me to tell people. I had only told my husband, because I was kind of ashamed about the need for it.

I have told my daughter [older than your two] and a neighbour and 2 friends.

The others i am going to say that i am going in for 'an op on my stomach' and hope they are not too nosy.

If Fern Britten can do it, so can I.

debbles · July 7, 2008

I have no problem with shame. But we don't shout everything to everyone on a daily basis anyway. I don't wear a shirt shouting "I am heterosexual" I don't scream at everyone"I have asthma" My business is my business. But there is no more shame in having gastric surgery than in having a nose job or boob job. Anything you do to make yourself feel better is a good thing. I am happy to find someone here in the UK/

emily111 · July 7, 2008

hmm mine did not tell me to tell ppl... but i tell ppl anyways :tt1: I am so happy I am having the surgery and although strangers dont need to know I like to tell my family and friends because if not I fill like I will expload lol.. I dont have any kids though so I dont know how I would handle that.. I think its great u told them ur having surgery because you never know what might happen :tt1: