OK, so. I woke up at 4:30 with pains in my legs (charlie horses) and didnt get back to sleep til 6, and i had to get up at 6:30. so that really sucked... but not as much as what im about to tell u.

i got up and got ready for the day and my mom calls me. she tells me that in order for her to have her surgery it will cost her $7,000, and thats including the help from our insurance apparently...

she said that instead of her getting the surgery, she would pay for me to get it. she said i have a longer life to live and she wants me to be able to enjoy it. that just made me depressed knowing the only reason my mom isn't getting what she wants is because she knows i want it too. we both need it, theres no doubt about that. but i am gonna feel so guilty if i actually do it... she'll see me losing the weight and be saddened by it.

i dont know what to do!! :biggrin::sad::thumbup:

Aww. That's so sweet of your mother. I would sit and talk with her about it and make sure it's what she wants to do. My mom is on the heavy side but not big enough for lapband so she is just eating healthy with me while I go through the process and exercising with me. Just have a talk with your mom and see what's up. That's so sweet though, brings a tear to my eye. I wish you luck in everything you do.

Wow! Your mother is a truly a wonderful person. I can't speak for your mother. I can only speak as a mother, and what makes me happy is to see my daughter happy. Don't get me wrong I can have my selfish moments, just like anyone else. I think you should except your mothers gift and let her live through your joy, becuase that gives a mother lots of happiness. And also there is nothing like a child expressing the joy and knowledge of a mothers love and sacrifice. Best wishes to you and your new journey.

Awwwww, what a nice mamma! I have two children and I would do ANYTHING for them b/4 myself. Just give it all a few weeks and a few talks with your mamma and then make your decision. Good luck

If ya'll can get the surgery for $7,000, that about half of what most people who self pay have to pay. Is there no way ya'll can both go through with the surgery for that price? Most Dr. have reasonable payment plans.