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I wont miss everything everyone else said plus hopping i don't bump into anyone i haven't seen in the last 12 or so years because i know what they are thinking omg what the hell happened to her.

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you look Marvelous!!! It is nice to see peeps close to where I live and at similar height that have had this done. I am having it done on March 20th. I cannot wait! I have 160 lbs to lose and I am 5'9". Congrats and I know you will get to your goal!

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I am putting this out there because I am getting ready for pre-op and need to motivate myself:

Going to audition and dreading dancing because I'll jiggle

Thinking that they won't cast me because of my size

Self doubt and Self conscious

Sneaking food in the car so no one can watch me eat

sticking myself with needles for diabetes meds

My neck waddle

People telling me I lost weight but I still look fat in the face... yes someone did say this to me recently and I have lost 20 lbs going into this. I just want people to say well nothing.

Being depressed about going on a cruise because I am fat and not having choices for clothes.

You all mentioned Lane Bryant, I like their clothes but not their prices. I won't miss Avenue or Torrid though... LOL

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Boy I understand, with 2/3 of my weight lost, I love going into the store and going to the "normal" sized clothing. I even bought jeans this week at BJ's wholesale LOL just picked up the jeans and brought them home and they fit.

Size 12 by the way LOL

NO more fat stores at all for me.

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Boy I understand, with 2/3 of my weight lost, I love going into the store and going to the "normal" sized clothing. I even bought jeans this week at BJ's wholesale LOL just picked up the jeans and brought them home and they fit.

Size 12 by the way LOL

NO more fat stores at all for me.

That is seriously, the best feeling ever. Oh, and for the first time in years I dont dread buying a swimsuit. :rolleyes:

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OH man, can I ever relate to almost all the things posted here!

My biggest things are:

I wont miss:

*seat belt extensions on airplanes

*sizing up a chair before I attempt to sit down in it

*back pain when walking too far (like more than a couple hundred steps)

*blood pressure meds

*trying to squeeze into booths at a restaurant.

*being self conscious about how I look to others, especially thin people

*Being the fatest person in the room

*Afraid of falling because I might need help getting up

*tieing shoes without struggling to reach

I could go on and on and on... most of them have been covered already though.

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I'm just starting in the process, I'll probably have my surgery in May or June. I love reading all of the "things I won't miss" lists. I can relate to 90% of them. It's so good to be able to hash things out with others who are in the same boat!:thumbup:

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I'm going in for my lap-band tomorrow, and this post is reminding me of all the reasons that I signed up for it in the first place. I have been reading posts all week about noises the stomach makes after surgery, and foods I won't be able to eat, and thinking I don't know if I can live with that, but as I read this list it's amazing the things we live with now that I never thought I would live with, like being afraid to go on an airplane because you won't fit or not being able to ride roller coasters. The down-sides of this surgery are NOTHING compared to down-sides of daily life being obese. Thanks for the reminder!

I know this list is going to be the same as a lot of others, but it feels good to actually write them down, say them out loud (and I can't wait to start crossing things off this list post op!!):

- Being afraid of not fitting in an airplane seat, we actually spent a few hundred dollars upgrading our seats this last time to avoid this fear.

- Being afraid of not fitting on roller coasters - I've been too embarassed to even try to ride them for a couple of years just in case I didn't fit

- Booths at restaurants are getting snugger and snugger

- Thighs rubbing together

- Not wearing shorts

- Not wearing short sleeves because of my fat arms

- Dreading running into people from the past

- Fear of running into my husband's co-workers who I have never met because I don't want him to get teased at work for having a fat wife

- Lane Bryant, it will be so nice to shop like a normal person again!

- Not having the energy to play with my daughter like I would like

- Secretly worrying about my daughters weight all the time - she is only 20 months and is not at all overweight, but I still secretly obsess about her eating habits because I never want her to have to go through life overweight.

- Feeling like people look past you instead of at you

- Having smaller boobs, I can't wait to get into a normal bra size

- Not going to the doctors because I don't want to get on the scale

- I look forward to being pregnant and actually looking pregnant - not just fatter

- Swimming - I love to swim but will only do so when nobody else is around - so when its 90 degrees and everyone is in the pool, I'm in my capris and 3/4 lenght shirt saying maybe later, then when it's 50 degrees at night and everyone is inside, that's when I finally go in the pool

- It'll be nice to wake up and not think about my weight, not have that on the top of my mind all the time

- Pictures, I love taking pictures, have thousands of my daughter, but literally 4 or 5 with me in them, it'll be nice to have family pictures that I don't want to delete

- Avoiding concerts or shows, or just being miserable at them because I am so crammed in the seat and am worried about what the people next to me are thinking

- Not being able to cross my legs

- Going through 2 razors just to shave my legs

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