I am tall and my weight is distributed pretty nicely. I'm 6'0 and almost 300 lbs. I've only told a few people that I'm getting surgery and I keep getting the "what you getting surgery for, stop being lazy and go to the gym" comments. But none of these people have my severe back issues or worsening asthma. How do you stop yourself from slapping people who talk about your surgery being the "easy way out"

I didn't tell anyone. I am a very private person and pretty stubborn when I've made up my mind about something anyway. Instead of friction, I usually choose privacy and peace.

I have shared with those who are sincerely interested and in need, like those sitting in the doctors offices debating whether it is worth it or not.

best way to avoid the comments is to tell no one.

i thought i could avoid it by telling the 5 people i am closest to AND trusted not to tell anyone: Mr., The Kid, Sis, Mom and BFF.

Surprisingly, it was Mom and BFF who were the commentators.

Mom asked why can't i just diet, and that she was scared for me to go under the knife for an elective surgery and to pls reconsider. I told her yes, i'll think about it, and did it anyway.

BFF said something along the lines of "people use cliff notes to cheat on writing essays, this is your cliff notes for weight loss!" I let slide her poor attempt of a joke as we go way back, and i love her. I answered back along the lines of, yep i'll need all the help i can get! ...and did it anyway.

though i will say i got way more (unwanted) comments as i lost weight by the people who didn't know i had surgery.

i just became a master of changing subjects.

good luck! ❤️

Edited January 8, 20242 yr by ms.sss