ok, so this is a vague post because i don't want to be too specific. but, i have noticed in my whole 2 months as a member of this forum, that some people have modified their signatures, or have become quiet due to what some people have said on this forum.

an example that i have, and i hope that she forgives me if she knows who this is, but there is a "seasoned" bandster on this forum that had the most awesome picture in her signature. her picture was one of my MAIN inspirations to have my band. she has since removed her picture because of some things that were said. i think it is sad that it seems some of our most experienced members are purposely removing themselves from the lime light because some arrogant, "know it all" feels they have a right to persecute another person.

we are all adults on this forum..for the most part. we all deal with our own problem in real life. this is supposed to be a place of haven and sanctity where we can come and not feel as if we are being persecuted. we are all individuals and i think we all have a right to our own opinion, but some people can just be down right asses about their opinion and it turns into a mud throwing competition instead of a healthy debate.

i think it is sad. we deal with enough crap in our lives as it is. we have enough persecution being fat people. why would we intentionally say things to sway or hurt another person because we are offended? so what if that person is more successful for you, if it bothers you then you need to work on your on insecurities. so what if someone posts something that is very personal and graphic (i'm guilty), who are you to tell that person that they shouldn't do that? so what if someone chastises (spelling) another for eating solid right after surgery, that person more than likely knew that they were breaking the rules, and they should know that posting it here will get a response.

all i'm saying is bring it on, i can handle it. if i post something and you feel a need to express your opinion, then do it. however, do not be so arrogant to think that your way is right and i should change based on your post (i'm not talking about bandster rules in this paragraph).

we are all people, and we all have our own opinions, if you are offended, then do not read. if you have your feeling hurt easily then do not post something that YOU KNOW will get a response that you can't handle. it's time for people to put their big girl panties on, or big boy undies, and grow up.

i just cannot believe that some people are so arrogant and obnoxious to think that they have a right to tell anyone what the should or should not do (again..not talking about the bandster rules).

if you have been successfull YOU SHOULD SHOW IT AND BE PROUD. don't let some cynical, self doubting, prude, tell you that you shouldn't because it makes people feel bad. that is crap. absolute crap.

...and i want that oldie to put her picture back damn it. it was inspiration and now it is gone, because some idiot felt the need to tell that person that they were offended...ridiculous...

Totally off topic, and I promise not to turn this in to a thread-hijack....

WASA, are you EVER going to post your before/after pics? Maybe after your PS?

Totally off topic, and I promise not to turn this in to a thread-hijack....

WASA, are you EVER going to post your before/after pics? Maybe after your PS?

I truly don't have any before photos. Honestly, the only fat photo I have is one that was taken the day before my Dad died of cancer. I was not happy. My creepy sister wanted to take family photos. ??? My Dad was dying. I was just getting ready to give her the finger and she took the photo. That is my before photo.

After my PS I might, actually I probably will. But you know, there are strange people on these boards like the person that has been suspended under various IDs. Someone was telling me that she has actually stalked people in real time before. How much info do any of us want out there?

Denise822, Neveragain, KansasSooner, Shirley, Steve, Gary, Wendy, Lucki... quite a few people have seen me, can't you ask them what I look like? :huggie:

OK, I understand not wanting a stalker to latch on....

I could ask one of them, but it's just not the same... ~sigh~

I guess I shouldn't be so disappointed, I haven't posted any pics yet, either, I'm just not ready, although I DO have some pretty awful before pics.

And on a side note, I lost my dad to cancer this summer...actually the chemo had given him a lot of nasty bleeding ulcers that went untreated for whatever reason, and in the span of 24 hours, he died an awful death that we were all there for. I don't think I looked very pretty that day, either, and if someone had decided that they wanted pictures, I might have commenced to beating the living s*** out of them. THIS IS NOT THE TIME.

OK, BACK TO TOPIC!! :huggie:

OK, I understand not wanting a stalker to latch on....

I could ask one of them, but it's just not the same... ~sigh~

I guess I shouldn't be so disappointed, I haven't posted any pics yet, either, I'm just not ready, although I DO have some pretty awful before pics.

And on a side note, I lost my dad to cancer this summer...actually the chemo had given him a lot of nasty bleeding ulcers that went untreated for whatever reason, and in the span of 24 hours, he died an awful death that we were all there for. I don't think I looked very pretty that day, either, and if someone had decided that they wanted pictures, I might have commenced to beating the living s*** out of them. THIS IS NOT THE TIME.

OK, BACK TO TOPIC!! :huggie:

Ahhhh, so you do understand why I was starting to give my sis the finger as she took the photo!

Sorry about your Dad, it's hard losing them. Very hard.

I met WASa last summer when I went to AZ to visit my dad. She is the sweetest person and I feel lucky to have her on this board.

It's nice to have someone who is so intelligent and is a wealth of information to be willing to help out and answer questions.

I can't wait to see her again when I visit my dad again in a couple of months. She wasn't quite to goal when I met her. She looked great then, so she must be looking fabulous now!

My dad is 88 and I dread the inevitable. I have been lucky that he has been is such good health for someone who has smoked for 60 years.

Thank you, Denise.

BTW, I called your Dad the other day to see if he wanted to go out to dinner somewhere but I wasn't able to reach him. When you talk to him would you mention that I'd love to take him out somewhere as we planned when you were here?

Thanks! That was really sweet of you. He is in Chicago right now and won't be back until the middle of Jan. I am glad because

I don't have to worry about him while my brother is taking care of him.

WasABB rocks my socks. haha.

I met her a couple of weeks post-op and she was the sweetest. VERY knowledgeable in the medical field and industry and if I do say, she's not too tough on the eyes.