Hi all! I am new to this board as a member although I have been reading for a few weeks. My VSG is scheduled for May 10th and I am excited, anxious, nervous, scared, excited, excited and excited!

I am going this alone. The only person I have told is my mother and that is because she is my emergency contact. I am not telling other family members, friends or coworkers. I will NEVER tell other family members (oh, the judgment) but I'll probably tell friends after the fact. I know my friends will be there at my side pre-op if I needed them to be but I just need to do this alone. Not sure why but I can't deal with having an audience or unsolicited advice.

Did anyone else decide not to tell anyone, except for a select few, before the procedure? Did you still keep it to yourself afterwards when the weight loss started to be noticeable?

A part of me feels guilty for not sharing beforehand but I know not sharing is what is best for me.

What you wrote is exactly how I feel! I’m 6 months post. I shared my news with my family and just a few close friends. My transformation has been huge and for people not to notice would be an extraordinary thing. I am 5’6 with medical complexities. I started out at 240 pounds. I am now 145 pounds. It is a huge difference.I Work Out, kayak twice a week and go to the gym for Zumba and yoga... I watch what I eat non stop...it is not an easy fix… And anyone who thinks that this is a one trick pony is far from understanding the challenges that you will face… The gastric bypass surgery is not easy, and it wasn’t easy for me to make the decision as it is not easy for anyone to make such a life altering choice. I know it is hard for anyone to face something like this, I am 48 years old had a life long ordeal of being teased about my weight by my family, the people that are supposed to love you… And I still am facing it with my father who feels that I should still only weigh 115 pounds… It will never stop. But I am happy, i was the only heavy one out of 4 kids. But now, I am healthy, I am no longer taking insulin, and I am finally excepting who I am. I hope that anyone who is facing this decision to have surgery understands that this is their life ....their decision...and no matter what they do they need to love themselves.

1 minute ago, Kikikayaker said:

What you wrote is exactly how I feel! I’m 6 months post. I shared my news with my family and just a few close friends. My transformation has been huge and for people not to notice would be an extraordinary thing. I am 5’6 with medical complexities. I started out at 240 pounds. I am now 145 pounds. It is a huge difference.I Work Out, kayak twice a week and go to the gym for Zumba and yoga... I watch what I eat non stop...it is not an easy fix… And anyone who thinks that this is a one trick pony is far from understanding the challenges that you will face… The gastric bypass surgery is not easy, and it wasn’t easy for me to make the decision as it is not easy for anyone to make such a life altering choice. I know it is hard for anyone to face something like this, I am 48 years old had a life long ordeal of being teased about my weight by my family, the people that are supposed to love you… And I still am facing it with my father who feels that I should still only weigh 115 pounds… It will never stop. But I am happy, i was the only heavy one out of 4 kids. But now, I am healthy, I am no longer taking insulin, and I am finally excepting who I am. I hope that anyone who is facing this decision to have surgery understands that this is their life ....their decision...and no matter what they do they need to love themselves.

1 minute ago, Kikikayaker said:

What you wrote is exactly how I feel! I’m 6 months post. I shared my news with my family and just a few close friends. My transformation has been huge and for people not to notice would be an extraordinary thing. I am 5’6 with medical complexities. I started out at 240 pounds. I am now 145 pounds. It is a huge difference.I Work Out, kayak twice a week and go to the gym for Zumba and yoga... I watch what I eat non stop...it is not an easy fix… And anyone who thinks that this is a one trick pony is far from understanding the challenges that you will face… The gastric bypass surgery is not easy, and it wasn’t easy for me to make the decision as it is not easy for anyone to make such a life altering choice. I know it is hard for anyone to face something like this, I am 48 years old had a life long ordeal of being teased about my weight by my family, the people that are supposed to love you… And I still am facing it with my father who feels that I should still only weigh 115 pounds… It will never stop. But I am happy, i was the only heavy one out of 4 kids. But now, I am healthy, I am no longer taking insulin, and I am finally excepting who I am. I hope that anyone who is facing this decision to have surgery understands that this is their life ....their decision...and no matter what they do they need to love themselves.

God Bless, nothing easy about the road ahead. A kind face, keep going.

I'm new here and have just started this journey. I do not have surgery scheduled yet because I have to jump through the insurance hoops. I am hoping to learn how to eat too before surgery.

Anyway, I am apprehensive about telling anyone. I mentioned WLS to my bestie this morning. She told me I don't need it.

I told my sister my plan and while she seems supportive, she also makes snide remarks like, "I hope you're ready to live with a colostomy bag when the surgery goes wrong."

When I required surgery for my shoulder 2 years ago no one told me I didn't need it. I hadn't even been suffering that long with that condition.

I don't want to close people out of my life but I may have to so they don't sabotage my decisions.