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On 3/3/2020 at 6:55 AM, summerset said:

Considering how many patients decide to hide their WLS people might simply don't know why one is loosing weight.

A colleague was absent (i. e. on sick leave) for a while and then loses weight like crazy. Could be serious illness as well. I wouldn't want to make a compliment then.

I guess it really is an individual journey then. Some people want to be notice and others don't.

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Yes, I agree how frustrating it can be when people don't acknowledge your accomplishments. But I agree that when someone has such a drastic weight loss, some people might assume it's due to an illness, and are simply afraid to ask ("Hey, Mary--you lost weight--you look great!" "Oh thanks, Sue--chemotherapy will do that, you know!")

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On 2/26/2020 at 12:32 PM, AJ Tylo said:

This has been covered

here is my View: Who gives a F@#ck you are doing this for yourself - Not others

I give a F@#K. Yes I am doing this for myself. I'm also doing it for my family. And I still care what people think. We are social beings and like to be acknowledged for our accomplishments. I don't think I'm the only one who feels that way.

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I'm so sorry that people aren't commenting on your hard work! I'm lucky I guess, because my co-workers all know I had weight loss surgery since so many people I work with have done the same and everyone always comments on how much thinner my face is and how much I look like my sister now which is a HUGE compliment as my sister is seventy pounds lighter than me! And at my nieces birthday party in February one of my sisters friends, who I hadn't seen since before I started my weight loss journey in May did an actual double take. She told my sister 'Wow your sister has lost like a hundred pounds since I saw her last, how did she do it?!' and when my sister told me I was so happy for the compliment as at the time I'd lost only 82 pounds since I'd seen her last. I like the compliments so I understand how discouraging it would be that no one is praising your hard work! So I just want to tell you that you're doing amazing and undoubtedly look fabulous and sometime soon people are definitely going to take notice of your efforts! I wish you the best!

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I know it’s not the same pose same clothes .... 12/18/19 was sleeve. I only go to the gym (I’m a stay at home mom to 5,4,3,2yr olds)

no one suspects I’m sick- since they see me in the gym at all hours . One spin instructor even made a comment I should teach spin since I’m doing it all the time ...

So yes, I give a damn. Someone comments on ianother persons weight loss in front of me and doesn’t say a word about mine ... rant in rant and raves ... drop mic 🎤

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There's definitely a very noticeable difference so... maybe people are just really, really, really unobservant sometimes. I can understand the frustration though and hopefully someone will get clue and say something! You look great though! Good job!

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I remember feeling like this too. All at once, people just started noticing. But then again I think people are also so hesitant to comment on weight!! Which I can totally understand!! Hang in there- people will notice!!!!!

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Here is a tip, it is time to start wearing form fitting clothing. This was very hard for me as I had always worn loose clothes to hide (I thought) the excess pounds and jiggles. Now I can wear a medium and only jiggle where you want to! Roflmao We all will amaze ourselves daily!

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On 2/26/2020 at 3:43 PM, CheerfulLoser said:

I figure that I was thankful when no one commented when I was *gaining* weight, so I’m going to be perfectly happy for no one to comment on my losses as well!

I hear you. That's what I think too. I think that I'll be glad when people start to notice but at the same time I don't want people asking me a million questions and commenting so much that it gets annoying you know. I don't want to tell everyone all the details. I'd rather them just say I look good or say nothing LOL.

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I am ten years out. And had gained 40 pounds in the last 6 years.... Initially had lost 140 pounds.

A year ago I decided to lose weight - the truth - there were no more family members to bury, no more closets to clean out and cry over - I decided to see if I could lose 10 pounds in a year.

I lost 10 in about 3 months, then another 10 .... and in 13 months now, 41 pounds.

It was not until we had to go back to the offices to work that I realized my work clothes FELL off my BUTT. I had to guess sizing, as try on rooms were closed. I put clothing on over my clothes in the store. I had, in the year gone from a 2x to a 16 petite in regular sizes (or 14, if I wanted to hem pants - I don't!)

Once I wore clothing that fit.... people noticed. But they commented on odd things: You changed your hair style.... something's different...

Just laugh !!! You have accomplished something huge in your life. It will make a difference in your life ! Rejoice your accomplishment and buy some new clothing.

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My husband NEVER notices weight gains/ losses. Which is awesome when I got super heavy. But now I'm thinning out again(for GOOD) and I'm like, dude where my compliments at? I gotta fish for them sometimes, but once I point out that I've reached certain goals, or that certain things fit/don't fit, he will obvs be excited and supportive. Sometimes ya just gotta go get those notices yourself [emoji849][emoji23]

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I think when a person loses a substantial amount of weight (50 pounds is substantial), some people are afraid to mention it out of fear it might be from a serious medical crisis (cancer, etc). Because their first thought is that has to be it or you (and me) would have lost the weight a long time ago.

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I agree with the others than the loss is noticed more if you wear clothing in your new proper size. I know you started this thread months ago so I’m thinking that by now you are being complimented like crazy!

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