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commenting on someone's weight gain/loss is plain rude imho. although, I have noticed that there are many people who are more easily able to spot a 5-10lb weight gain than a 50lb weight loss. go figure. saying "you look great" or something along those Iines is fine and about as much of a compliment as I would give anyone regarding their weight, but when I am on the receiving end, the cynic in me wonders how much of a beast you thought I looked like before. that said, I have noticed that for me at my highest weight, it does take about 50 lbs to get any comment at all. The heavier you are, the more subtle a 50+ lb weight loss is. I have learned to Celebrate my own victories instead of relying on others to encourage me.

congrats to everyone! you all must look great! lol. but seriously, the compliments and encouragement I get from people on these boards is more meaningful than most of the reactions I have gotten from people in my day-to-day life thus far. it's a mixed bag of genuine happiness, surprise, scrutiny, jealousy, etc....

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I love the attention and the compliments 😁😍

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54 minutes ago, angryspice said:

commenting on someone's weight gain/loss is plain rude imho.

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saying "you look great" or something along those Iines is fine and about as much of a compliment as I would give anyone regarding their weight, but when I am on the receiving end, the cynic in me wonders how much of a beast you thought I looked like before.

This and this.

I don't comment on another person's weight. For so many people there are too many emotions attached to weight, losing or gaining and it makes them feel uncomfortable.

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5 minutes ago, summerset said:

This and this.

I don't comment on another person's weight. For so many people there are too many emotions attached to weight, losing or gaining and it makes them feel uncomfortable.

I was once a committee with a woman who probably weighed around 400 lbs. I ran into her at a party several years later, and she probably weighed about 130. I went on and on and on about how much weight she lost and how terrific she looked. She finally said thanks, but it actually wasn't a good thing. She died two or three months later of ovarian cancer. I'm always careful now when I comment about weight loss...(and I usually say they look great (which in this particular case wouldn't have been good, either) - or don't say anything at all)

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