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This last week I've been struggling with the idea to go through with the surgery, thinking if I shouldn't go through with it and try push myself harder to just diet and go gym.

I want to lose the weight but I don't want to end up looking skinny fat and not be able to consume enough Proteins a day to gain any real muscle mass.

My only problem is I can't seem to go gym long enough to make as difference. Always battling myself mentally

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I had the same doubts! But i went through with sleeve and so glad i did! Im 3 months post op and 3 stone lighter and feel so much better and happier. Its not easy and have had the odd day when ive thought why!? But best thing i ever did! Good luck with whatever you deside

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I had these same doubts. It's natural to be wary. ((hugs))

From day 1 I've had no problems meeting my individual Protein goals. I can eat anything I feel like eating. Anything...including dry, dense, Proteins. YMMV. We are all different.

But a couple of things:

1. The challenge for most of us isn't in what we CAN'T eat or enjoy any longer. The challenge is actually to make healthy choices over our old food loves/addictions.

2. Because I've really focused on rebuilding the types of food I eat, I now have a new gut biome and my cravings are quite different now. I now actively CRAVE healthy food and prefer eating fish (salmon, cod, and white fish, shrimp) and chicken breast and ground turkey over beef. I could have never predicted that since I used to adore beef! Go figure. :)

You will find that as you are successful losing weight that your priorities and focus might change. :)

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I told myself that for years (that I can do it on my own with diet and exercise). Every time, I'd lose 40-50-60 lbs just to gain it back - and start the cycle over again. This went on for decades. I finally realized that no, I couldn't do it on my own. I'd tried and tried and it just didn't work. So I finally went through with the surgery. I've lost over 200 lbs and have been maintaining ever since. No way could I have done this on my own. I'd have this surgery again in a heartbeat!

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Oh bloody hell. This is the guys' room!

DERP!

My apologies to every dude on the planet for busting in and adding my unnecessary opinion! Carry on--am bowing out now! :blush: (Calling Dr. Bombay @johnny cakes to come kick my ass for breaking into the club house!)

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Most of us will say we only wish that we had done this surgery sooner. A year ago at this time I could not have imagined doing this. It had a nasty stigma attached to it and a feeling of failure. I met with a regular dietician at the same time as my bariatric consultation. I knew I needed help as I never felt satisfied. I am only 2.5 months out but the restriction you get is really everything it is advertised to be. I had major problems with Portion Control but now I get that physical reminder and there is just no need to keep going after that.

I wish I did this sooner I just didnt want to admit that I needed help. This community has been very helpful during my journey.

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On 7/17/2019 at 5:45 AM, Brent701 said:

Most of us will say we only wish that we had done this surgery sooner. A year ago at this time I could not have imagined doing this. It had a nasty stigma attached to it and a feeling of failure. I met with a regular dietician at the same time as my bariatric consultation. I knew I needed help as I never felt satisfied. I am only 2.5 months out but the restriction you get is really everything it is advertised to be. I had major problems with Portion Control but now I get that physical reminder and there is just no need to keep going after that.

I wish I did this sooner I just didnt want to admit that I needed help. This community has been very helpful during my journey.

GREAT STATEMENT AND WE ALL SHOULD REMEMBER THE HEAD AND BRAIN CONTROL THAT NEEDS ATTENTION AS WELL AT LEAST IN MY CASE WITH OUT THE COUNSELING I DONT KNOW IF I WOULD HAVE THE SAME OUT COME food IS FUEL AND THAT IS IT FOR ME AT THIS POINT

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