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Is anyone in this similar predicament? You want to make new friends, or possibly date, or find a non sexual activity pal to work out at the gym or attend a concert or go to a gallery or arcade or bowling, or movies etc.. But it's difficult if you're not the club/ bar type and you're not the "hook up"/ "speed bump" type. Also if you're PostOp, have lost a considerable amount, but still have a ways to go, if you choose to search online, where do you sign up? You've dropped from ssbbw---> bbw stage or bbw---> plus size thus far but still losing weight & apparel sizes; you sure as heck don't want to register on a BBW date site because they're either feeders and/ or fetishists, just want sex or want to debate why you went through the procedure & make you feel low.

And it's purgatory dealing with the "regular" sites, even if you state clearly you had WLS to essentially help save & prolong your life so you can LIVE a healthier, more active & fulfilling one when traditional methods failed for many yrs/ decades, and even if you lost the weight & they see your most current pics, you're still "not what they expected", you may even still be a tad limited in what you can do physically, they still ask impertinent/ rude questions or comments. So you spend the meet/ greet over coffee or someplace lighthearted & neutral (if u decide to meet them) essentially defending your decision. Some are absolutely against surgical weight loss interventions for one inane or out dated reason or another. Ughhhh!!!

And there's no one remotely of interest or availability at my local WLS Support group meetings at my surgeon's office.

Then we're caught between a rock & a hard place. What a drag. :(

What have you done? What's been your Post Op date Quest experiences/ any success? I've been widowed for many years. The pickings were slim back when I was pre-op, single b4 I was married. Now here in northeastern OH it's just as lousy if not worse. ROFL! And I can't afford a decent matchmaker. LMBO!🤣

Thanks in advance for helpful recommendations. Much appreciated. :)

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