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Not looking for advice! I just need to vent.

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michellehill    9

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A few days ago my bonus son (I'm his dad's girlfriend) surprised me with a ticket to his graduation and I was so happy cuz I am seeing more and more that his kids truly love me [emoji28]. So while in trying to lose this weight and to quite smoking so I can gave the surgery I decided I'm not buying any new clothes until after as a reward. Well this morning I wake up to see my boyfriend dusting off his pimp brim (LOL) and dress clothes to wear to the graduation and I ask is that what your wearing? He looks and with a I think I'm the shiznit smirk says yes it's my son's graduation. So I then inform him that I will not be able to make it to the graduation because he is way over dressed for anything I have (I lost everything in a house fire about 3 years ago). That's when he says oh i planned on taking you to Walmart and buying you a dress. Walmart really I wear NOTHING but Torrid so why would I go anywhere else? So we go to Torrid (haven't worn a dress in 10 year because I am so big) and I'm already self conscious he and I look. He picks out a 1 piece that is cute but I have reservations about it so I tell him we need to find a sweater to cover my arms. I also pick out a cute dress that would not need a sweater and when I go to try them on I wanted to try on the dress I picked first because I needed to see me in something I really liked B4 I try on this onesie. He stops me and says try on the 1 I picked out first and mind you the sale lady informed me there is really no sweaters due to the summer season. So ok I try on this pant suit or like I said B4 onesie and it looks hideous. Now I'm really upset because I've gotten this big and I then say I'm done as he rushes out to grab another dress. I walk pass him telling him I'm done. When I first entered the store I seen a cute dress but was called over to the clearance section by him. There is a reason that it's on clearance and in my size duh. No other women wants to wear that onesie if they are as big as me (at lease no women with since). Do I have self confidence no not all the time and to feel like a fat blob of existence is another level. If he would of let me do it myself I may have been able to go to my boys graduation [emoji35]. I will post pics of me B4 and now and you will see why in so unhappy wit my life and my damn eating disorder. 20150310_123700-MIX.jpeg 20171006_214946.jpeg

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GreenTealael    24,864

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Girl... Im not judging but Walmart has some CUTE dresses in their plus section this season. Ones that made me downright ANGRY that they weren't in my size...

Did you miss the graduation already?

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KCgirl061    1,529

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It sounds like he was doing something really sweet buying you a dress and you were a total brat about it. Both in that you were too good for a Walmart dress and then you somehow blame him for not finding one to your liking: "If he would of let me do it myself I may have been able to go to my boys graduation" or that he expected you to dress up to go to a graduation ceremony? Have you been to a graduation before? Of course he expected you to dress up. Vent all you want but in my opinion he didn't do a damn thing wrong.

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GradyCat    3,692

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It sounds like he did everything he could to accommodate you and make you happy. Why not just wear something you're comfortable in and go to the graduation?

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Frustr8    7,886

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Yeah, your boy is the Star, doubtful if anyone would even notice what you had on, if they do, Smile and say " Oh THAT was back when I was undergoing Renovation!, just smile and don't sweat the mi-nute stuff!

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SusieQ2019    567

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Did you expressed your feelings to him. It looks like his heart was in the right place. I don't have a Walmart in my area but from what I've seen online they have beautiful dresses. Sometimes in life we have to embrace the present. Unfortunately we cannot go back in the past or live in the shadows of our skinny past. You will have your surgery and loose a lot of weight, but in the mean time we have to live for today.

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49Nash    103

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I think he sounds sweet. Get a dress you feel comfortable in and go to the graduation. Everyone that loves you knows you are overweight and obviously don’t care. Who cares what strangers think. Go and enjoy your time

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ChocoTaco    37

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I've bought a lot of clothes from Walmart, and they are way more affordable than torrid. Not to mention some are actually cuter. Don't knock Walmart till you try it!

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Midnightsun    129

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Just went to my stepsons graduation and it was outside. I wore jeans, Sandals and a nice top, my husband jeans and polo type shirt. His mother wasn’t dressed up but the stepfather had a suit. Their were people in shorts and t’s to suits and ties. They aren’t going to remember what you wear just if you are there. They only get so many tickets feel honored he considers you one of the most important people in his life to give you a ticket. Also think of it this way, you will only be wearing whatever you buy a few times before it is too big. You are a cute lady you can find something to wear!

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NYJenn    1,461

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Your step son doesn’t care what you there...he just wants you to be there! The graduation is about him, don’t make it about you. It’s a special event, just be present

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