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FancyChristine15    810

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So, I'm not even to goal yet, and I'm already thinking about the possibility of gaining weight, and it terrifies me. At another time in my life, before the surgery, I had lost a lot of weight with diet and exercise, and I put every pound back on plus more. I'm sure that I'm not the only one on this site with that has had that happen to them though. I'm obsessed with weight. I think about weight a lot. I watch YouTube videos of obese people. I watch My 600 Pound Life almost every day.

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Pjj431    71

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You have done so well. Everyone struggles with doubt but you have this! One day at a time!

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FluffyChix    17,418

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I think this is a valid fear and a pretty universal one for us who are MO or SMO and who have lost a crap ton of weight. I know I'm terrified. If I see a 2lb gain on the scale it makes me walk a straight and narrow line as soon as I see it! ((hugs)) I know you will figure it out. To me, it does require reviewing what kind of food we fill ourselves with. What happens if you eat a pound of pizza versus, what happens if you eat a pound of spinach?

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43 minutes ago, FancyChristine15 said:

So, I'm not even to goal yet, and I'm already thinking about the possibility of gaining weight, and it terrifies me. At another time in my life, before the surgery, I had lost a lot of weight with diet and exercise, and I put every pound back on plus more. I'm sure that I'm not the only one on this site with that has had that happen to them though. I'm obsessed with weight. I think about weight a lot. I watch YouTube videos of obese people. I watch My 600 Pound Life almost every day.

If the fear helps you to stay on track, then it’s useful. I smile when our bariatric minds can get so crazy. I get it. *laughing*

I admit I have had to deal with my fear of weight gain. I always blew it when I’ve attempted to maintain my weight in the past. I would gain plus more just like you. Funny and not funny where the mental battles take you. I also obsessed my way through weight loss phase. I can’t say it was a bad thing, it got me to a healthy weight. I had to really think about if my fear was healthy. At times, it has not been.

Third year I had a gain (I worked it back off) I freaked out. It really messed with my head. It took me on the crazy train trying every diet, logging and obsessing. Ugh not a healthy head space.

It’s taken some work to relax and to trust myself.

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41 minutes ago, FancyChristine15 said:

I'm obsessed with weight. I think about weight a lot. I watch YouTube videos of obese people. I watch My 600 Pound Life almost every day.

I feel you. I watch youtube and TLC and watch people where they are now.

I had surgery around the same time as you, it's that one year since surgery that is making you think about it, at least it is for me. Looking back at this past year I know the surgery was a big help/tool that lowered the amount of food I can take in, but the changes I have made in food choices and personal fitness are going to be for life and that was all me, not the surgery.

Remember that the surgery was a help, but YOU are the change in your life. After the honeymoon phase its all on us. 👍

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17 minutes ago, nenes78 said:

I feel you. I watch youtube and TLC and watch people where they are now.

I had surgery around the same time as you, it's that one year since surgery that is making you think about it, at least it is for me. Looking back at this past year I know the surgery was a big help/tool that lowered the amount of food I can take in, but the changes I have made in food choices and personal fitness are going to be for life and that was all me, not the surgery.

Remember that the surgery was a help, but YOU are the change in your life. After the honeymoon phase its all on us. 👍

Love this!

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1 hour ago, FancyChristine15 said:

So, I'm not even to goal yet, and I'm already thinking about the possibility of gaining weight, and it terrifies me. At another time in my life, before the surgery, I had lost a lot of weight with diet and exercise, and I put every pound back on plus more. I'm sure that I'm not the only one on this site with that has had that happen to them though. I'm obsessed with weight. I think about weight a lot. I watch YouTube videos of obese people. I watch My 600 Pound Life almost every day.

I agree with everyone as well and I have been watching my 600 lb life every since it came on, I started out watching the biggest loser, it just always fascinated me how different (great) people looked after losing so much weight, that show actually motivated me to start exercising and going to the gym, but of course i would not stick to it, but it gave me hope that I could do it to...I don't think you're obsessed it's just that we can relate and it's real life stuff. I even watch re-runs girl lol. BUT we are NOT putting this weight back on ((hugs))

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1 hour ago, GreenTealael said:

I think a lot of us are afraid of regain.

Naturally. One has to find the balance between being too careless on the one side and the scaremongering on the other side.

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I've never watched those shows about obese people, but I too am scared of regaining weight. I'm only 3 months post-op and have lost 1/2 of the weight toward my goal, but I worry that one little piece of bread at lunch is going to make me gain weight. I'll just keep moving forward.

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43 minutes ago, summerset said:

Naturally. One has to find the balance between being too careless on the one side and the scaremongering on the other side.

Im going to use the fear to stay motivated.

Like the fear of being deserted & homeless... Won't do that again either... 💖

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I'm 2 weeks post-op today and am already scared. The first week after I thought I would never eat, now I feel opposite, I can eat 1/2 cup of food and I'm afraid I will revert to my old habits. I'm going to my first support meeting tomorrow. Best wishes!

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BigDaddy BGP    16

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I'm a little over a month out, and have lost more weight than I have ever been able to before...I too fear what will happen a few months from now, but, I have never had this "tool" before to help me...so, my hope resides in the fact that I am changing my life habits and putting my new tool to use...and always remembering to take one day at a time....if I mess up one day, get right back up on the horse the next....

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FancyChristine15    810

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54 minutes ago, GradyCat said:

I worry that one little piece of bread at lunch is going to make me gain weight. I'll just keep moving forward.

Same! I was experiencing a lot of leg cramps, so I decided to eat a banana every day, but it was a mind game for me to allow myself to eat a banana...who would have thunk

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