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Ok guys. I am 5 weeks out of my gastric sleeve and having a hard time. My go to was food and I know that the sleeve was my choice of a life changing event. I’m doing good in getting a couple bites of food in. Feeling like I am unable to drink enough Water and Protein Shakes. I want to down a bottle of water so bad but know it will come right back up. Waiting a half hour before and after eating seems like it takes to much time from drinking. Any suggestions? Thank you in advance.

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It’s a process . I stick with cottage cheese yogurt and shakes to get all my Protein in . A little fish or chicken , but can’t each much and I am 10 weeks out

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Hang in there Michelle and take it slow. Just keep sipping through the day, before you know it you will be able to take big sips and gulps of Water. There is a mourning process that takes place because we had become accustomed to relying on food. for me I used food instead of feeling emotions I did not want to deal with. When I couldnt do that anymore I had some really hard moments that included tears and lots of sleeping :) but fast forward 4 years and VSG was the best thing i could have ever done for myself. Also do some journaling, I did and it is nice to be able to go back and read my feeling and moments along the way while I was losing weight. Hang in there I promise you will look back on this ruff period and be glad you did it. Sending you Hugs!

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Thank you so much. Today has been the roughest day that I have had emotional wise. I know it’s going to get better it’s just I feel lonely without my food. Lol as dumb as that may sound. I was a stress eater and having a lot of stress right now. Thanks again for listening you guys. So glad you are doing so well. Thanks for the advice.

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I understand. I feel all my social life kind of revolved around eating and drinking! Girls night, restaurants, bars and what not. Now I go to the movies a lot. I also watch a lot of pictures of food and videos ahha totally unhealthy but I do not get the urge to eat anything as i am seldom ever hungry.

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I'm scheduled for to be sleeved on May 14. I keep wondering about the social aspect of not being able to drink and eat with family and friends. I guess there will be changes that I haven't heard others mention. Thoughts?

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Thank you so much. Today has been the roughest day that I have had emotional wise. I know it’s going to get better it’s just I feel lonely without my food. Lol as dumb as that may sound. I was a stress eater and having a lot of stress right now. Thanks again for listening you guys. So glad you are doing so well. Thanks for the advice.
I truly understand you. I have surgery in 6 hours and I was on my all liquid diet all yesterday. I took my kids to my parents and my mom was making homemade cinnamon rolls. Talk about a test!!!! It does 100%, feel lonely. I cried before I went to bed last night. I haven't cried at all during this whole process. I haven't even had surgery yet and I'm already feeling like I cant do this. But mind over matter right?? We can do this!!!

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On 03/10/2019 at 22:56, Mountaineer514 said:

I'm scheduled for to be sleeved on May 14. I keep wondering about the social aspect of not being able to drink and eat with family and friends. I guess there will be changes that I haven't heard others mention. Thoughts?
My family just had a birthday celebration yesterday. Usually my focus was always on what I was making food wise and of course, the cake and ice cream!
It hit me while I was waiting for everyone to pull up that I needed to flip my focus. It can’t be about the food but about being together.
Granted this took place in my own home but I had absolutely no guilt about taking my plate in the other room so I could concentrate on mindfully watching my bite size and timing before the next bite. Everyone understood and then it was back to fun and games!
In a restaurant situation I think I could eat as slowly as needed to not draw a huge attention to my plate and take the leftovers home to eat over the next month 😂

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On 03/10/2019 at 20:04, michelle.boone27 said:

Thank you so much. Today has been the roughest day that I have had emotional wise. I know it’s going to get better it’s just I feel lonely without my food. Lol as dumb as that may sound. I was a stress eater and having a lot of stress right now. Thanks again for listening you guys. So glad you are doing so well. Thanks for the advice.
I totally get it! Same here. I’m trying to learn to break it down into small manageable battles as I face them instead of focusing on the war because that is just too overwhelming. And yes, I’ve cried, wanted to scream into my pillow and more . {{{hugs}}}

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On 03/11/2019 at 06:19, angie_is_losing_it said:

I truly understand you. I have surgery in 6 hours and I was on my all liquid diet all yesterday. I took my kids to my parents and my mom was making homemade cinnamon rolls. Talk about a test!!!! It does 100%, feel lonely. I cried before I went to bed last night. I haven't cried at all during this whole process. I haven't even had surgery yet and I'm already feeling like I cant do this. But mind over matter right?? We can do this!!!

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Good luck on your surgery today!!

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angie,
It is normal to feel this way. I think you will so great. Be positive. The hunger factor going away makes things easier. Some days are harder than others, however if you keep your eye on the goal, it's all worth it. The results definitely help.

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      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
      Soooo I am coming to a realization
      of something and I'm not sure what to do about it. For years the only thing I've enjoyed is eating. We rarely do anything or go anywhere and if we do it always includes food. Family comes over? Big family dinner! Go camping? Food! Take a short ride or trip? Food! Holiday? Food! Go out of town for a Dr appointment? Food! When we go to a new town we don't look for any attractions, we look for restaurants we haven't been to. Heck, I look forward to getting off work because that means it's almost supper time. Now that I'm drinking these pre-op shakes for breakfast, lunch, and supper I have nothing to look forward to.  And once I have surgery on June 11th it'll be more of the same shakes. Even after pureed stage, soft food stage, and finally regular food stage, it's going to be a drastic change for the rest of my life. I'm giving up the one thing that really brings me joy. Eating. How do you cope with that? What do you do to fill that void? Wow. Now I'm sad.
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        Life as a big person had limited my life to what I knew I could manage to do each day. That was eat. I hadn't anything else to look forward to. So my eating choices were the best I could dream up. I planned the cooking in managable lots in my head and filled my day with and around it.

        Now I have a whole new big, bigger, biggest, best days ever. I am out there with those skinny people doing stuff i could never have dreamt of. Food is now an after thought. It doesn't consume my day. I still enjoy the good home cooked food but I eat smaller portions. I leave food on my plate when I am full. I can no longer hear my mother's voice saying eat it all up, ther are starving children in Africa who would want that!

        I still cook for family feasts, I love cooking. I still do holidays but I have changed from the All inclusive drinking and eating everything everyday kind to Self catering accommodation. This gives me the choice of cooking or eating out as I choose. I rarely drink anymore as I usually travel alone now and I feel I need to keep aware of my surroundings.

        I don't know at what point my life expanded, was it when I lost 100 pounds? Was it when I left my walking stick at home ? Was it when I said yes to an outing instead of finding an excuse to stay home ? i look back at my last five years and wonder how loosing weight has made such a difference. Be ready to amaze yourself.

        BTW, the liquid diet sucks, one more day and you are over the worst. You can do it.

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