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I’m a very private person. So I chose not to tell friends & family that I’ve had the surgery ( only hubby knows). I’ve been able (so far) to avoid eating in front of everyone. Anyways I have a girls night out next week and this will be my first dinner out to a restaurant. How do you guys handle ordering from menu.....ordering drinks? I’m thinking to possibly get a virgin something so it doesn’t look suspicious. Any suggestions?

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What do you plan to say if your girlfriends notice that you've lost close to 50lbs? Are you going to make up something or tell them the truth?

Are you afraid of what others will say and you really don't welcome their opinions? Some people can say the most thoughtless of things.

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Unfortunately for me, I have several family members who chose to talk about my surgery, without my permission, to several people. Now everyone knows! Im honestly quite angry about it but there is nothing I can do at this point. If I were you, I would just say you are low carbing ;). Most people will accept that answer and not continue to prod you for more details! Congrats on the weight loss!!

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3 hours ago, Missouri-Lee's Summit said:

What do you plan to say if your girlfriends notice that you've lost close to 50lbs? Are you going to make up something or tell them the truth?

Are you afraid of what others will say and you really don't welcome their opinions? Some people can say the most thoughtless of things.

Honestly no one has said/noticed anything. Maybe because I’ve seen them regularly....or that it’s not noticeable, Not sure. Since starting this journey I had to do the 3 months with Dr visits & nutritionist (for insurance ) so most knew I was on a high Protein, low carb, low fat, low sugar diet. And I bounced back super quick from surgery, only stayed 1 night /2days so no one questioned anything.

I chose not to tell because of the negative stigma associated with the surgery— about “taking easy way out” and fear of what if this doesn’t work or isn’t noticeable.

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That stigma! We're weak when we're fat, and we take the easy way out when we make the courageous decision to do something positive for ourselves. I'm so sick of this toxic social mentality.

Everyone here will agree that YOU DID NOT TAKE THE EASY WAY OUT. Committing to a lifestyle change is hardly the easy way out! (I'm not talking to you, btw. I'm directly these words toward all those thoughtless fools who have no control when it comes to opening their mouths about something that most know nothing about.)

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I haven’t had my surgery yet, but have a couple friends in our girls group that have had surgery and didn’t tell any of us. I know because we are in the same support group. When we go out to dinner they order a side salad, dressing on the side and usually a pc of grilled chicken breast , ( they eat hardly any of it and no one says anything) for the drink 1 of them orders a mock-tail like you plan to and the other orders Water and let’s it set. I chose to tell this group of friends and only a hand full of family.
Have a great night out.

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      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
      Soooo I am coming to a realization
      of something and I'm not sure what to do about it. For years the only thing I've enjoyed is eating. We rarely do anything or go anywhere and if we do it always includes food. Family comes over? Big family dinner! Go camping? Food! Take a short ride or trip? Food! Holiday? Food! Go out of town for a Dr appointment? Food! When we go to a new town we don't look for any attractions, we look for restaurants we haven't been to. Heck, I look forward to getting off work because that means it's almost supper time. Now that I'm drinking these pre-op shakes for breakfast, lunch, and supper I have nothing to look forward to.  And once I have surgery on June 11th it'll be more of the same shakes. Even after pureed stage, soft food stage, and finally regular food stage, it's going to be a drastic change for the rest of my life. I'm giving up the one thing that really brings me joy. Eating. How do you cope with that? What do you do to fill that void? Wow. Now I'm sad.
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        Life as a big person had limited my life to what I knew I could manage to do each day. That was eat. I hadn't anything else to look forward to. So my eating choices were the best I could dream up. I planned the cooking in managable lots in my head and filled my day with and around it.

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