I had my 3 month surgiversary the other day. I truly thought that having the surgery and losing weight would make me somewhat happier. I have lost weight, and their has been some major positive changes health wise. Physically I feel good. Emotionally, not so much. I am shying away from social situations and situations where I cannot control the way I eat. The way I eat is somewhat regimented. Going out with friends creates anxiety for me. I also still see myself as the big fat guy that I have been my entire life. I get compliments from people that have known me, but I look in the mirror and still see the guy that I was before the surgery. I had more confidence when I was heavier, now I second guess everything. I am just not happy with myself. I have 27 lbs to go before goal weight. Has anyone ever felt this way before?

Hey everyone. I went to speak to someone. It felt really good getting it off my chest. She also had the sleeve so she kind of knew where I was coming from. Thank you all for the advice. I am doing my best to adjust to this huge adjustment.

@GotProlactinoma I have never heard of this before. I mean I've heard of beneficial bugs in the gut. Wouldn't yougurt do the trick or is it because of the starches? I take an adult probiotics because i had horrible nausea and I was willing to try anything, although I'm not religious with taking it. I'm also curious with the gut biome care for bipolar, as I am bipolar myself (totally not ashamed) and I look for any kind of treatments that are NOT more pharmaceutical.

You have got a case,my the Nearly At The End Blahs. You want to kick start yourself into a sprint but you can't find thr,pedal to stomp,on! That is my diagnosis, but my track record with perfect diagnosis is a little flaws.

I had a great day yesterday and last night. I went on a date, and it went really well. I felt normal, I wore cargo shorts! I never wore shorts ever. Yesterday I actually looked in the mirror and saw someone different. Now, the mind has to catch up. Each day I am working on it.

Aaaaaahhhhh, Buzz! You sweet thing! Your change in weight sounds dramatic and powerful. No wonder you are a bit lost in your own skin, seeking a new identity.

Although social eating situations are a bit awkward since I am quite accustomed to shoveling my food, I have noticed that slowing down quite a bit and taking small bites really helps extend my ability to enjoy the social eating!

I hope your psyche soon catches up with the new bod!

Buzz...date, cargo shorts! Oh yeah, Baby! Happy for you!