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I’m not a “vet” by any means but I’ve had a lot of success since my surgery and I’ve been on this site for a good 9 months. And I love being a part of this community. So I want to say this first, I posted in Rants & Raves for a reason....

- “I’m 5 day’s post op and it’s not working”. Miracles don’t happen overnight. The amount of people who think that they will wake up from surgery feeling amazing and all their problems solved. SMH
- “I haven’t lost anything in 3-4 months and I’m 6 months post op”. I’m all about helping but I hate when people post about how they aren’t loosing and then don’t offer any information on their diet, exercise, Vitamin intake, ect. And half the time they drop off the face of the earth when you ask them.....SMH
- The pre-op diet sucks, that is all. SMH
-“I’m still hungry”. I hate that a common misconception that hunger is going to disappear. It doesn’t happen to everyone. But common sense would tell you that, liquids aren’t filling. Wait until you are on solids again to worry about your hunger levels. SMH

Ok I’m done! Thanks guys for letting me get that off my chest. Some days you just have to rant.

And PS. I know that people don’t always know the stuff I mentioned above, so when I’m not overly irritated by these gross misunderstandings about the process...I’m happy to help!

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Right there with you!
HELP ME (but I refuse to provide you with the required information)
HELP ME (I'm going to post the exact same question in several places)
HELP ME (I refuse to believe what you've told me)
HELP ME (My opinion of your facts mean that your facts don't matter)

I'd call myself a vet at this point... Banded and became a member here in 2011, Bypass in 2018, So, 7 years on this site... 2 WLS surgeries and lots and lots of failures...

But, you can lead a horse to Water, but you can't force him synchronize swim with you.

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I do agree. I wish sometimes people would search for the topics that have already been posted.

I get wanting someone to post to your concerns but there are hundreds of posts about stalls, which surgery did you choose and why, pre op diets, sleeve to bypass revision, etc. Use the search!

:P

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I'll add my rant...

I'm freaking out, surgery is in 1 week, 1 day, is this normal? YES, grow a pair you will be fine.

I will help anyone as well, but I encourage using the search tool and reading historical posts. I am now researching the plastic surgery posts, and lurking on the veteran site so i can gain perspective into what's next and maintenance, even though I have 40# to go yet. My favorite topic is success stories and pictures of before and after.

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I'm sooo glad you posted this, I've been feeling the same way recently!

Let me add

I've gained a pound, the sky is falling, this surgery didn't work!

I'm a slow loser ... (has lost 30+ lbs in a month)

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Omg! LOVE this! I'll add to this too... people who freak out about a week stall. *eye roll* keep following the plan you were given and you'll be fine!

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A new one
I had surgery X amount of years ago, I haven't been following what I'm supposed to do, I don't talk to my PCP or Surgical Team, I'm gaining weight, I'm not exercising or tracking my intakes, I don't know what's wrong... HELP ME PLEASE....

Just... really?

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On 06/11/2018 at 06:41, Matt Z said:



A new one

I had surgery X amount of years ago, I haven't been following what I'm supposed to do, I don't talk to my PCP or Surgical Team, I'm gaining weight, I'm not exercising or tracking my intakes, I don't know what's wrong... HELP ME PLEASE....



Just... really?


Ding ding ding! It’s a winner.

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The HELP ME's kill me!

Seriously, we are just people on the internet!

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And then there are the "one uppers"...

I'm just here trying to help folks by relaying information and facts. If I throw out an opinion, it's usually pretty clearly an opinion.

But some folks just don't want to acknowledge facts if they don't correlate with their opinion.

Seems like the reason I stopped coming around here back in 2011/12 still exists.

I haven't blocked anyone yet... might have to start doing that (if that's even still an option)

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On 06/12/2018 at 13:57, Matt Z said:



And then there are the "one uppers"...



I'm just here trying to help folks by relaying information and facts. If I throw out an opinion, it's usually pretty clearly an opinion.




But some folks just don't want to acknowledge facts if they don't correlate with their opinion.




Seems like the reason I stopped coming around here back in 2011/12 still exists.




I haven't blocked anyone yet... might have to start doing that (if that's even still an option)


Yeah the “one uppers” are the worse!

I hope we don’t lose you Matt. It would be a shame.

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1 hour ago, Matt Z said:

I haven't blocked anyone yet... might have to start doing that (if that's even still an option)

Hover over their name, at the bottom of the user overlay is three option: Message - Ignore - Find Content.

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I have to add more.

The lack of "searching" before asking. And I'm not just on this site, but in general. Seems some don't bother to do any background research first, they just come here and expect us all to be doctors.

And why are folks afraid to ask their doctors some of these questions?

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I love how we can continuously come back to this thread and add. I hope this goes on for rest of the time we spend on this site! Our rants will change with time and experience for sure.

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25 minutes ago, Matt Z said:

And why are folks afraid to ask their doctors some of these questions?

Honestly, I hate asking my Dr. or his staff about things. But honestly most questions are just common sense.

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