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Might be cancelling Surgery. Given the choice would you do it again?



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I’m a month out from having my surgery and I don’t regret it at all. My only regret is that I didn’t jump on the chance to have it done 7-8 years ago when my liver specialist first recommended it to me because I was too scared to even consider it at the time. This time that it was recommended to me I did the research and agreed that it was what I needed after all. I had 2 friends who already had the surgery talk to me about their experiences as well as coming on here reading about others experiences helped me feel better about making this decision to have the surgery. You are going to do wonderfully! The first day or two are the roughest on how you feel afterwards but it improves every day. You will be feeling great before you know it!

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I would do this all over again without a bit of hesitation. It is an unbelievably hard change in mindset and a very hard decision to make when you are in that stage. I was in the same boat where I thought about cancelling mine. I am so thankful that I didn’t and stuck it out and got the surgery. This journey we are all on is not easy. The good news is that it does get easier as time goes on and we get further down the road. I am now just shy of 7 months out from my surgery and what started as a mental and physical struggle has now become a new healthy lifestyle. I am enjoying life much more now that I am healthier and more active. I wish you the best of luck on your journey, and hope to see you in here post op telling us all of your success stories and milestones met.


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8 hours ago, Chickensoup said:

I truly appreciate all of you sharing your journey and giving me support for my journey. I really needed the advice and thanks for the reinforcements. May 10th here i come and no more taking to negative people about my journey. Ya'll are the best 😍

I'm glad to hear this. As many others have said, you have done the research, you know what is best for you. These people do not know your struggle. This intervention was really unfair to you and comes from a place of ignorance.

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This is a huge decision so no surprise that you're having second thoughts. However, I wish I'd done this 10 years ago when a doctor first suggested it! Your co-workers are well-meaning but not well-informed. They haven't done the research and have likely just heard that you can only ever eat a tablespoon of food ever again (I had someone tell me that). The first few weeks are tough. Won't lie and say they're not. But 15 weeks out, I went out with hubby last night, had a bowl of chili (well, not all of it - big bowl) and even had my first drink post-op. Life is "normal" but I would say I eat like those "skinny b*****s" we used to see out. No one at work knows I've had surgery and they just think I've reduced my portions, but they see me eat and don't bat an eye.

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I’m just under a week post op and I’d do it again tomorrow!

You know it’s the right thing for you and that’s what matters. Good luck and keep us posted 😃

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I learned to not take advice on weight loss surgery unless the person had went through it themselves. That is the only way to really get a realistic idea of what it is like.


Age: 37
Height: 5’6
Starting BMI: 37
VSG: 4/16/18
Starting Weight: 241
Surgery Weight: 229
Current Weight: 213 (17 days post op)
GW: 160
MFP: Fit4LifeAR

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1-Go for it.

2-Feel great.

3-Exercise.

4-Roundhouse kick your coworkers in the mug.

Generally speaking, people afraid of surgery are people who haven't had surgery. Bariatric surgery has vastly proven to be the best alternative both cost effective and Healthwise. I'm willing to bet hard cash against anyone that can bring me a scientific paper from a reputable source that says otherwise.

When you go back in a few months and look at this thread, looking and feeling great, you can print it and place it on a prominent place at your workplace.

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15 hours ago, Chickensoup said:

I was feeling so good about having the VSG until 2 weeks ago when a few coworkers bombarded me with their so called plan of intervention of why nots. Now i have anxiety and nervous and feel like cancelling my surgery in a few days on 5/10. If given the choice all over again would you still make the same choice?

Absolutely!

I worried myself into almost backing out. I decided to simply follow my NUT pre surgery diet plan to the letter for 30 days and ended up gaining. That was the moment i knew i didnt have the tools to complete the job alone. I was sold. VSG was for me. I had an easy recovery which will not be everyones journey, but i was willing to deal with the side effects if any arose. Do what is right for you.

Safe journey!

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I should have done it sooner, no regrets. Two months out now and it’s great.

Given your proximity to surgery, you will most certainly have the best information about what the pros and cons are. You have talked to surgeons, PCPs and nutritionists. Your coworkers, however well-meaning, are fueled off of fear of the concept of “elective” surgery and scary stuff they found on the Internet. Don’t give their opinion much weight.

My family was pretty hung up on the idea of “elective” surgery for a bit. I pointed out that while this is a fast-recovery, low-risk surgery that is technically elective, the many joint replacement surgeries I’d need in a decade or two would NOT be elective. My mother, the reluctant owner of two replacement knees that each required extensive recovery and rehab, quickly saw the sense in getting gastric sleeve. They are also completely thrilled at how well it’s all gone since surgery.

good luck!

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I'd do it again, no brainer!

Be brutally honest with yourself - where do you think you'll be in 2 years without surgery? Where do you think you'll be with surgery? Pick your future self.

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Would do it again 100%. I've escaped my prison of fat and feel awesome and can do so much more. Wish I had done it sooner.

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I was feeling so good about having the VSG until 2 weeks ago when a few coworkers bombarded me with their so called plan of intervention of why nots. Now i have anxiety and nervous and feel like cancelling my surgery in a few days on 5/10. If given the choice all over again would you still make the same choice?

I told the people i work with only because I work at a small private practice dental office and me taking off affects everyone. Some were very supportive and happy for me while other were not. The ones who weren't were the ones who gave me the list of negatives about the surgery. These are also the ones who are also overweight themselves and for some reason won't consider the surgery. One of them even said it was because food was the only thing she had in common with her husband...i just figured for every negative they gave me i would give them a positive. In the end it is up to you on whether you want to be healthy. Only you know what you've tried in the past to lose the weight only to have that plus some come back. Don't make your decision on having this surgery based on what others say. Make it on what you know you've gone through to make you consider the surgery in the first place! You've got this and most importantly you've got us! [emoji3]

I'm getting sleeved on 5/15 at 2:30 pm and I can not wait!![emoji2]

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DO NOT CANCEL!

You’ll regret it if you do.

Stop listening to people who have no idea what you’re doing, going through or anything about the surgery.

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My only regret was not having it sooner. I know that I had it done when I was ready to have it done, but I still wish I’d been ready sooner.

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