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Little L    0

Little L
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My husband actually said that I need to stop losing weight because I'm starting to look like a "Crack Head".

😢 yes my feelings are crushed 💔

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abefroman329    704

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And to think my therapist said that some people find being underweight unattractive. I was dumbfounded!

In conclusion, f*ck him.

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Sleeve1stFitNext    924

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Oh well damn. That just hurt my feelings.

Honestly, I think he may be dealing with some issues regarding your smaller frame. He isn’t used to you being smaller so he is acting out in either jealous, insecurity or both. I am sorry you have to hear that but if losing the weight makes you happy, that’s all the matter.

Sometimes we have to cut the dead root to really blossom.

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Biddy zz 🏳️🌈    1,004

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Is he a big fellah? Maybe he is anxious someone will whip you away?

But you have to talk! He needs to own how he feels, not call you names. It is rude and you are supposed to be his ‘cherish and protect’ person...

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logicwand    269

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I lost a lot of weight on my own several years ago and my brother said I looked like a cancer patient. It really hurt how I felt about such progress for my health. I know he was trying to be funny because he's the family comedian. But he's also 300 lbs. I'm not sure if there was underlying insecurity there (probably). But I know he wouldn't have said it if he thought it'd hurt my feelings. He shoots from the hip a lot too.

Was your husband half joking, half being serious? Maybe talk to him more about the surgery and what this means to you? I don't know y'all's situation, but it's definitely at a point where you two are in a disagreement about what's best for you. So maybe time to talk. :)

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Creekimp13    5,841

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1 hour ago, abefroman329 said:

In conclusion, f*ck him.

My suggestion...DON'T f*ck him until he apologizes for that classless remark:)

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Little L    0

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:rolleyes:

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KArata11    9

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On 3/5/2018 at 7:06 PM, Little L said:

My husband actually said that I need to stop losing weight because I'm starting to look like a "Crack Head".

😢 yes my feelings are crushed 💔

I can punch him for you!!!! How rude. I'm so sorry. He's just insecure and needs to get over himself.

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FluffyChix    17,418

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On 3/5/2018 at 10:40 PM, Creekimp13 said:

My suggestion...DON'T f*ck him until he apologizes for that classless remark:)

Congratulations! Tell her what she's won, Johnny!

YOU little lady just won the internet!!! Congratulations!!!

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      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
      Soooo I am coming to a realization
      of something and I'm not sure what to do about it. For years the only thing I've enjoyed is eating. We rarely do anything or go anywhere and if we do it always includes food. Family comes over? Big family dinner! Go camping? Food! Take a short ride or trip? Food! Holiday? Food! Go out of town for a Dr appointment? Food! When we go to a new town we don't look for any attractions, we look for restaurants we haven't been to. Heck, I look forward to getting off work because that means it's almost supper time. Now that I'm drinking these pre-op shakes for breakfast, lunch, and supper I have nothing to look forward to.  And once I have surgery on June 11th it'll be more of the same shakes. Even after pureed stage, soft food stage, and finally regular food stage, it's going to be a drastic change for the rest of my life. I'm giving up the one thing that really brings me joy. Eating. How do you cope with that? What do you do to fill that void? Wow. Now I'm sad.
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        Life as a big person had limited my life to what I knew I could manage to do each day. That was eat. I hadn't anything else to look forward to. So my eating choices were the best I could dream up. I planned the cooking in managable lots in my head and filled my day with and around it.

        Now I have a whole new big, bigger, biggest, best days ever. I am out there with those skinny people doing stuff i could never have dreamt of. Food is now an after thought. It doesn't consume my day. I still enjoy the good home cooked food but I eat smaller portions. I leave food on my plate when I am full. I can no longer hear my mother's voice saying eat it all up, ther are starving children in Africa who would want that!

        I still cook for family feasts, I love cooking. I still do holidays but I have changed from the All inclusive drinking and eating everything everyday kind to Self catering accommodation. This gives me the choice of cooking or eating out as I choose. I rarely drink anymore as I usually travel alone now and I feel I need to keep aware of my surroundings.

        I don't know at what point my life expanded, was it when I lost 100 pounds? Was it when I left my walking stick at home ? Was it when I said yes to an outing instead of finding an excuse to stay home ? i look back at my last five years and wonder how loosing weight has made such a difference. Be ready to amaze yourself.

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