Regrets???

[wwebster01 1]

I'm glad you asked the question as I'm curious also. I think the positive responses are reassuring. Good luck to you on your journey, I am waiting on a surgery date my self.

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[Krista27 340]

No regrets here. I was do worried about it pre op. But I am so happy that I got my sleeve.

[GigiNFortWorth 12]

Yes I totally regret it! I am 2 years out and regained all but 40 pounds. In the process of doing revision to the Loop DS. Should of done this in first place

[XYZXYZXYZ1955 675]

The truth is that it's a temporary change unless you make it permanent. Sure, you'll have restrictions from the sleeve for a while. But you can make unhealthy choices and gradually eat more and more. If you lose a lot of weight, you can eventually regain it--and more.

There are days when I know I eat more than I should. I get full quickly, thank goodness, so it's still not that much compared with pre-surgery days. And I'm still losing weight, but I also have a long way to go.

And in case it's not clear--no, no regrets here about the surgery. Only about some of my own choices since--although objectively I've done well, there's always room for improvement in my behavior. That, ultimately, is key.

[kakatlady612 1,053]

My regrets may or may not be responsive. I regret when I grew up, when I reached late adolesence I was told stop being such a tomboy, stop playing softball and running wild with kids your age and younger, you are a young woman ---sit down and calm down. My parents even sent me to finishing school type classes to teach me to" deport" myself better. All I remember learning were make-up techniques, how to walk smoother and seductively and how to,balance a book on top of my head. But I listened, after all Mama and Daddy told me to do it and didn't they always have my best interests at heart? So although my appetite remained the same my activity level decreased phenomenally. Sit down, do your embroidery, crochet, knit, you can get up if you go cook, the only exercise you need is vacuuming or other housework. You'll never get a husband unless you move slow, smooth and act like a perfect,lady. As i look back, I probably didn't have a boyfriend because I was starting to look chubby but about as stimulating as thick vanilla custard. I regret marrying the first man who,seemed to,look past my body to my mind. They say you always marry a man like your father, well the" late lamented" did share the "my way or the highway" mindset, although he. was taller and heavier than me he seldom missed a chance to make snide remarks about my size. But I as least had gotten a husband, in the 60 and 70s every girl was supposed to have one, so I stiffeled my snappy retorts and bore up under the burden.Although he was a city boy he ate like a farmhand. Every meal better have potatoes and meat. When I married him his idea of a good meal was creamed corn, macaroni and cheese,(and that better not be from a box! )and mashed potatoes. I could throw in a platter of some sort of roast beast or fried chicken. Dessert better be cake, pie or choco-chip Cookies. Salads-- well they were evil, I could have one if I wanted but,I sure didn't expect him to eat any, did I?" I'm not a cow or other farm animal.after all."

And I "dumbed out", me with the Mensa level brain, but I couldn't keep a man that way, could I? So I played the game, if I raged I did it in the bathroom or behind closed doors. Oh I promised to love, I did not promise to obey but it still was implied, wasn't it?

I had a baby 13 months later, a little girl, he wanted a girl, so did both grandmothers. Both grandmothers set out to spoil her rotten , when one of them hadn't taken her shopping he was marching her around town. Meanwhile I cooked , cleaned and sublimated my will. I guess it wasn't a bad life, just not a great one.

When" little precious" started school I decided to try to diet,in earnest, what was my reward? I lost 50 lbs and. I got pregnant. Yeah I had begged for years to have" little precious" a sibling, now when I had picked myself up out of low self esteem-ville. I got another baby, lost weight during my pregnancy, then regained it afterwards, did it again 3 years later, same scenario except after child #3 I went into peri-menopause and the weight remained, creeping up increment by increment. I wish then I had sought bariatric surgery but no-- I would surely find the right diet, I had lost weight before, I could do it again. But no matter how I tried I didn't, got ridiculed for my salads etc so I gave up and ate the carb -heavy diet I was expected to provide my family. In 1987 I started working, activity level went up and I started yo yo-ing the same 30 lbs, family members started dying-' many of them from obesity, did it sink in? Not really, still thought I could beat it on my own. And the arthritis I had since 25 started to take its toll. Yeah I had snuck in a little playtime and activity with the children but that started to become difficult. I ended up having 2 knee replacements, one in 2014, one in 2017. I started saving my energy so I could continue working for money. And although l.l. had parted ways with his Columbus corporate job in 1985 and worked sporadically after that, I kept chugging along. Like the bumblebee that doesn't know his wings are too short to support his body weight, he keeps flying and I guess I did too.

And my life kept on, finally when I.I. died (and God forgive me, a relief) after 44 years of marriage in 2012 I had finally time to consider my health or what remained of it. Started going to my PCP, yeah another thing I.I. was against, doctors. They're only after your money, so many a time I went to work marginally sick. Only thing PCP stated on my 1st visit" You know you are overweight" [emoji197]No I'm obese but if you aren't going to say it I won't either. Finally after several years I got brave enough to bring up bariatric surgery. He told me at that time its something I think you should consider, when you feel you're ready I'll help you find a program. Finally in August 2015 I consulted a Bariatric surgeon in Columbus and started on his hospitals program, I was getting all my prerequirements done , had dietary assistance and had even,made a noticeable weight loss and my job and health insurance terminated in January 2016. I had 5 of the 6 I thought required when this happened. So I thought there would be no use in pursuing any further, I had no money for private pay and no covering insurance. Wasn't like I was personal friends with Obama and could ask him to underwrite it. Unbeknownst to me when I got new insurance the New insurance had looser requirements, I could have had surgery then. I regret not getting in touch with the surgeon's office then but on the other hand they could have volunteered the information to me also. I started again in autumn 2017 to seek surgery from the same place, since it had been 2 years I had to duplicate all the prerequirements once again. I did so, feeling I had jumped through every hoop they requested. I was waiting to hear back from them since my stuff had been finished in mid January. Waited and waited and waited, was told February 20th all 3 surgeons in the practice had a commitee meeting and decided not to perform my surgery. I regret returning there, I regret trusting these people with my life, I had felt my best interests were being respected there, I regret being told a lie as an excuse, what I was told made no sense to me or to anyone who truly knows me.But most of all I regret the abject waste of time out of my life. Oh I can and will find a placement in another program, maybe go in with my eyes wider open. But I can and shall make a success out of shambles. Just watch me folks![emoji197]

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[abefroman329 704]

I regret that it got to the point where surgery was the only realistic option, but I certainly don’t regret that I was able to stop the train before it ran off the tracks. Insulin injections 5 times a day, dialysis, knee replacement, blood thinners, none of those are fun!

[Stacy160 201]

Never, ever. EVER.

[Queenhkb 11]

No regrets it's a blessing that you have to work on maintaining.

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[Licorice 18]

Zero regrets. It has been the most amazing thing I have ever done. I love being a normal weight. I never thought that would be possible. Going from a 42 waist to a 33 waist and from XXL to L has been truly incredible. I have honestly never felt better.

[Biddy zz 🏳️🌈 1,003]

On 01/03/2018 at 4:37 AM, JustinH said:

Does anyone regret having this surgery? Be honest, if so and why? Just want to know what others are going through before I commit.

None, not a one. I love my new, simpler approach to eating. I still like my food, but my tastes have shifted a bit. I love fitting back in my old, carefully stored away clothes. I love trotting up the stairs, not labouring. I love feeling sexier.

It is all beer and skittles for me, 11 weeks out....

[JustinH 41]

Great feedback guys!!! Really appreciate it!

[doug548 35]

13 hours ago, GigiNFortWorth said:

Yes I totally regret it! I am 2 years out and regained all but 40 pounds. In the process of doing revision to the Loop DS. Should of done this in first place

Off topic....But, what we have been given is nothing more than a tool. How you use it is up to you

[knormlaver 27]

I'll admit that I'm having a few. I am dealing with some serious reactive hypoglycemia 5 months post op. I had the surgery to avoid diabetes. Now when I eat, my blood sugar spikes (even with careful avoidance of simple sugars etc) and then drops dangerously low about 2 hours after meals. I'm learning that this is a more common consequence of gastric bypass than I initially thought. I had originally wanted a gastric sleeve, but the surgeon felt mini gastric bypass was a better option for someone who is prediabetic. I was not warned about this potential complication.

[GigiNFortWorth 12]

Off topic....But, what we have been given is nothing more than a tool. How you use it is up to you

I did this surgery to resolve my diabetes and that never happened. I chose the wrong surgery, my surgeon even advised me to do the DS or the Loop DS. Everyone is metabolically made up differently, and therefore the outcome of the surgery is different for each person. My A1C is now worse than it has ever been, so yes.. I regret having the sleeve.

[doug548 35]

Wow I am sorry to hear that. I was 1 step away form insulin my self. That was the wake up call for me. I hope you do get better and get the surgery you need.