When I decided to look into the VSG surgery, I told my husband and he was supportive and positive. I also told my mother, who was not. (Just get your hormones straightened out. You'll be fine. No one in my family is overweight and I didn't struggle until last 12 years.) I started with my preop appointments in August. My husband went to the consultation with me and he drove me to/from the appointment for the GI endoscopy. He keeps saying that we shouldn't tell anyone - friends or other family. If any one asks when I start loosing weight, he feels like we should just tell them I started power walking. He told his business partner that the appointments were for 'woman issues'. The hell. the business partner is also a best friend that we spend time with outside of work. I really suck at lying. I have mobility issues that arose in my 20's before I gained weight and fibromyalgia- walking is painful! I do it when I have to, but no one is ever going to see me out power walking the block! And if people think I am, then they'll have a real lack of understanding when I can't participate in physical activities due to pain or weakness. For the rest of my life. While my mom is not supportive of anything I do, my family is very small and close. Basically, it's us and an uncle that I'm really close with and an aunt that adores me unconditionally. Both would be supportive and happy of my success. My weight has never been an issue with my husband. While his initial comments were supportive, the idea that we lie about what I'm doing seems very unsupportive and I don't understand what it might accomplish or what a hidden agenda might be. I asked if he was embarrassed for me. He said no, he just feels it's none of anyone's business. What am I missing here? I feel so agitated by it that I don't want to include him in anything else.

Yeah Sorry for replying to old thread - I saw there were recent posts, so I did. I had surgery 12/22/17.

13 hours ago, oopsydaisy said:

able to focus on myself with out having unsolicited advice from anyone

Yes.

Well stated!

On 10/10/2017 at 10:25 PM, Berry78 said:

I think it should be up to the patient to decide with whom this info is shared.

Hear, hear to that thought.

It's a "horses for courses" situation when it comes to personal info versus family, friends and work colleagues.

13 hours ago, AshAsh1 said:

I personally wouldn't share with people, unless you know they will be 100% supportive.

My thoughts precisely.