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Love for who I was and who I will be

I plan on losing a lot of weight. I have some friends who have recently lost a lot of weight, and along the way, they would point out how bad they looked in their old photos. I see that here a lot, too. The problem is, I don't think anyone looks "bad" heavier- they just look heavier. Today I make the promise that I will not put myself (or others) down just because of my size. Yes, I will shrink and get healthier. But I won't say "yuck, look at my double chin." Because to put myself down for being 200+ pounds is to mock the woman I have been for 10 years. I have been heavy my entire adult life. I have, and am, struggling with it daily. But I am still beautiful, and so are all of you, my friends, who may have some more weight to lose. We can better ourselves without putting ourselves down. So when you get to where you're going, don't look back and say "yuck." That especially makes others who are still at their starting weights, or maybe even higher, feel like crap when they see someone putting their heavier selves down. Every body has beauty. Every stage of our journey deserves respect. I'm not going to put down myself for being big, because I know that I am a woman who has survived depression, who has grown three babies within her womb, whose husband loves her and thinks she's beautiful, whose children think she's perfect just the way she is. So I will love myself for who I was, who I am, and who I will be.

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What many of us mean when we say we look bad in old photos is really, "I felt bad when I looked like that."

To me, it sounds like you have a healthy outlook. Tha's great! Keep it up!

I personally have had 'blinders' on about my body, I underestimated my large size, and never recognized it when I had lost weight as well. This time I will be more cognizant of what is happening. I never felt worthiness (complicated reasons) and have been working on that.

Good luck to you.

I plan on losing a lot of weight. I have some friends who have recently lost a lot of weight, and along the way, they would point out how bad they looked in their old photos. I see that here a lot, too. The problem is, I don't think anyone looks "bad" heavier- they just look heavier. Today I make the promise that I will not put myself (or others) down just because of my size. Yes, I will shrink and get healthier. But I won't say "yuck, look at my double chin." Because to put myself down for being 200+ pounds is to mock the woman I have been for 10 years. I have been heavy my entire adult life. I have, and am, struggling with it daily. But I am still beautiful, and so are all of you, my friends, who may have some more weight to lose. We can better ourselves without putting ourselves down. So when you get to where you're going, don't look back and say "yuck." That especially makes others who are still at their starting weights, or maybe even higher, feel like crap when they see someone putting their heavier selves down. Every body has beauty. Every stage of our journey deserves respect. I'm not going to put down myself for being big, because I know that I am a woman who has survived depression, who has grown three babies within her womb, whose husband loves her and thinks she's beautiful, whose children think she's perfect just the way she is. So I will love myself for who I was, who I am, and who I will be.
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I needed to read this I needed to come to terms with who I am and who I will be and realize the new me will never be better only a healthier version of me thank you so much for posting this and many blessings [emoji324]


Good luck

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