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Learning to take care of ME ...

As I am almost to my surgery date 8-29-2017 :) my pre-op diet has been not as bad as I thought the first few days I was very weak, the feeling of crashing came on most often but , now as I beginning to pack my hospital bag and prepare my mind for this journey that both my mind and body are about to take, I am very nervous... I am not nervous that I can not change my eating habits, I am also not nervous for the pain, or the way my life is about to change very quickly in just the next few short days.... My nerves are coming from the sheer fact that for the first time in 32 years I have to take care of ME and that is a very VERY scary concept for me.. I take care of kids, my kids, our kids, their kids, my spouse our family's, my siblings, I take care of so many things and people in My life... that not taking care of me has been easy because I always had the excuse that I only had time to shovel junk in my mouth or I did not have time to work out or live a healthy lifestyle... the transition has been easy thus far but I no this will be a battle of me learning to do what I can do to care for myself... I wonder if I am the only one that feels like this, how will I make time, how will I learn to say no for myself... how can I be better for me with out feeling an over whelming guilt or feeling of selfishness??? Any advice would be greatly appreciated Thank you and Have a wonderful day

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As I am almost to my surgery date 8-29-2017 [emoji4] my pre-op diet has been not as bad as I thought the first few days I was very weak, the feeling of crashing came on most often but , now as I beginning to pack my hospital bag and prepare my mind for this journey that both my mind and body are about to take, I am very nervous... I am not nervous that I can not change my eating habits, I am also not nervous for the pain, or the way my life is about to change very quickly in just the next few short days.... My nerves are coming from the sheer fact that for the first time in 32 years I have to take care of ME and that is a very VERY scary concept for me.. I take care of kids, my kids, our kids, their kids, my spouse our family's, my siblings, I take care of so many things and people in My life... that not taking care of me has been easy because I always had the excuse that I only had time to shovel junk in my mouth or I did not have time to work out or live a healthy lifestyle... the transition has been easy thus far but I no this will be a battle of me learning to do what I can do to care for myself... I wonder if I am the only one that feels like this, how will I make time, how will I learn to say no for myself... how can I be better for me with out feeling an over whelming guilt or feeling of selfishness??? Any advice would be greatly appreciated Thank you and Have a wonderful day

I know where your coming from that's all I ever did was take care of everyone but me. Sadly now I am in so much pain and out of shape. I use an amigo when I shop. I hate feeling like this. So it is now my turn it's all about me and my health. I'm 61 I'm going to have the sleeve done soon waiting for a surgery date. I'm so excited I'm have trouble sleeping thinking about it. Thoughts of maybe it won't work or wow I could be thin. So very many thoughts. But I'm ready for this journey. My daughter had the sleeve done two years ago. She looks amazing she lost 130 pounds. She a whole new person. Good luck you will do great!


I'm right there with you. I have 4 kids and a husband. I've never taken care of myself or out myself first. It feels strange to do that. It's kind of fun though. I'm enjoying getting myself ready for work and not fretting about clothes. I've gotten a new haircut and some new makeup. I still take care of my family , but I'm not putting myself last anymore. I think you might feel the same way once you are post surgery.


Mich W
Hw 223, SW 217 CW 185 GW 135

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One week post op ;) I'm feeling ok An I'm going to continue working on taking care of me I'll never stop taking care of everyone else but I no that it's my time to squeeze myself in their I deserve happiness to


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