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As my surgery date is getting closer (3 weeks), I've found myself having all sorts of emotions, which is obviously common.

Mostly, lately, it's been about not having food as my comfort anymore. I've been heavy all my life and as a quiet and shy person, I've always turned to food for comfort. It made me happy, it relaxed me, it was always there for me. It turned into my worst enemy as I developed bulimia at the age of 15. I went through therapists and nutritionists and finally tackled my eating disorder about 3 years ago but in trying to battle it all those years, I gained all the weight I had lost back and then some. Since I've been free of my eating disorder, it's been impossible to lose any weight, which is why I'm getting the surgery.

I know I've made the right decision, but has anyone else struggled with this sadness of not being able to be comforted by food anymore?

P.S. And YES my surgeon and team are fully aware of my history.

Does anyone have any suggestions as how to cope with this? I do plan on pursuing regular mental health counseling.

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Getting counseling will be of great benefit to you after surgery. the surgery fixes the body but not the mind. I am in counseling also, I find it really helps me stay grounded. Good Luck

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As my surgery date is getting closer (3 weeks), I've found myself having all sorts of emotions, which is obviously common.
Mostly, lately, it's been about not having food as my comfort anymore. I've been heavy all my life and as a quiet and shy person, I've always turned to food for comfort. It made me happy, it relaxed me, it was always there for me. It turned into my worst enemy as I developed bulimia at the age of 15. I went through therapists and nutritionists and finally tackled my eating disorder about 3 years ago but in trying to battle it all those years, I gained all the weight I had lost back and then some. Since I've been free of my eating disorder, it's been impossible to lose any weight, which is why I'm getting the surgery.
I know I've made the right decision, but has anyone else struggled with this sadness of not being able to be comforted by food anymore?
P.S. And YES my surgeon and team are fully aware of my history.
Does anyone have any suggestions as how to cope with this? I do plan on pursuing regular mental health counseling.


Yes, I too have been worried about not being able to eat certain yummy things lately. My sister is three years post and she said her cravings changed. She also reminded me that at some point you will be able to add stuff back and you will know when you've had "enough" instead of over-eating and indulging.


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Hi,

My surgery is also scheduled for Sept 7th, may I ask where you are having your's done? Best wishes

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