Just wondering what anyone's opinion is on not telling certain people in your life that you are getting the sleeve surgery. My Mom is 81, and I know she will start the "You don't need that, just get on a healthy diet....etc...etc" I am a grown up 50 yr old woman, I am a nurse, I have a full life with my kids and partner....and I really just do not feel like dealing with the opinion/dissapproival/comments etc. Yes, i can tell her and deal with the commentary etc....I just do not feel like it. Yet, I do feel a bit odd if I do not tell her I am having fairly major surgery.

I am basically venting, but I would really love to hear opinions on those who chose to not tell certain folks in their lives. Thanks!!

I'm pre-op and have told just my husband so far. I'm an extremely private person, and have been this way for as long as I can remember and therefore most likely won't be sharing my path with anyone. People around me are extremely nosy about things that don't pertain to them and i really don't care to divulge any part of my personal life. Its not like they have anything positive or helpful to add once they do hear about my life - so i choose to do my own thing in private.

My concern is my parents; I do worry that they'd be offended that I didn't divulge this "huge secret" to them or rather, trust them with my decisions. Honestly I'm choosing to be selfish. I dont want to deal with calls or texts while i'm trying to heal my body and my mind. I know that changing my relationship with food will be an uphill battle and I really want to give it my all without any distractions. As much as my parents love me they would be real distractions.

These are my two cents. I recommend that you choose to be as selfish as you can afford. This is your journey and your "rebirth". Decide who is your support system and stick with them and noone else. The rest can deal.

Love!

On 8/22/2017 at 4:20 PM, Leviosa said:

I'm pre-op and have told just my husband so far. I'm an extremely private person, and have been this way for as long as I can remember and therefore most likely won't be sharing my path with anyone. People around me are extremely nosy about things that don't pertain to them and i really don't care to divulge any part of my personal life. Its not like they have anything positive or helpful to add once they do hear about my life - so i choose to do my own thing in private.

My concern is my parents; I do worry that they'd be offended that I didn't divulge this "huge secret" to them or rather, trust them with my decisions. Honestly I'm choosing to be selfish. I dont want to deal with calls or texts while i'm trying to heal my body and my mind. I know that changing my relationship with food will be an uphill battle and I really want to give it my all without any distractions. As much as my parents love me they would be real distractions.

These are my two cents. I recommend that you choose to be as selfish as you can afford. This is your journey and your "rebirth". Decide who is your support system and stick with them and noone else. The rest can deal.

Love!

This is exactly how I feel !! Thanks again to all for chiming in, I appreciate all the stories/support