I am scared, excited. My family would never understand the struggle I have with food. All of my family is diabetic. I am sure I will be one day as well. I am doing this surgery for my 9 month old daughter and for myself. I want to be healthy and I want to do everything in my power to do so. I have struggled with my weight for 15 years and I'm tired. I hope this all works I'm so tired and I'm barely two weeks in the preop diet stage.

You HAVE to tell someone about your surgery in case of complications. It can be a friend, or whatever.. but if you get sick and need to go to the hospital, who will drive you? Who picks up your slack if you become bed-ridden? Who is taking care of your daughter?

Chances are excellent that none of these things happen.. but things can and do go wrong, so you need to prepare yourself and at least one other person for those possibilities.

People that live by themselves can afford to keep it all a secret, after all, if they get sick, it only impacts themselves. But people that live in a house with others have to tell at least one person in that house (or someone close by that can come over and help). And if you live alone with your daughter, then you definitely need someone nearby that can help make sure you are well enough to take care of her.

Once that is all sorted out, it's easy enough to hide the surgery from others. Always eat (drink!) alone. If you are moving gingerly, explain that you fell down some steps while on vacation, etc.

Good luck!!

I absolutely agree with @Berry78. You NEED to tell someone everything. Where you are going, contact numbers, all of it. Be safe and best of luck!

I too was reluctant to tell family and I too have all sorts of issues in my family tree (high bp and diabetes). Everyone has high bp and one sister is diabetic. I eventually told my family and was amazed at how supportive they are. No judgement, just a desire to see me healthy. We now can talk openly about my upcoming surgery which for me, was a burden to carry alone. Whatever you decide, I wish you the best!