Hello all. My husband had his band placed 18 months ago, and to date he’s lost 180 pounds (down from 600 pounds). One of the many changes that have happened has been the different way he now relates to food. When you eat half a stick of butter in one sitting, well, you’ve got problems…. He also tells me that he used to go to the drive through and order 2 or 3 full combo meals and scarf them all down before coming home for dinner.

Mike has now become a huge fan of cooking shows, especially Alton Brown. It’s pretty funny when he insists on giving me cooking tips. (One of the reasons my first husband left me was because I “was too good of a cook.”)

I don’t know what my current relationship to food is. I suppose I need to sit a while and ponder that before I have my band placed. I’m not a binger, I’m not a stuffer, I do use food as a reward, although I’m trying to change that to rewarding myself with other non-food treats. I do love really good food, and I love to feed my friends and family really good food too… and unfortunately, it shows. I’ve seen a couple of different therapists as part of diet and “non-diet” programs, and they were baffled because I don’t have any eating disorders, which seems to be unusual for someone with my BMI.

I would like to know how other people have noticed that their relationship changed with and to food.

Thanks in advance.

At one point in my life I,was consumed by food I would think of food as a pick me up! if I was down or blue Id eat..I felt better.we use food as chruch much of the time! some time we eat even knowing that we arn't really hungery.

After losing all this weight I, now think much more on Do I, need this or just want it?

then the mind set kicks in I just ate so now I will have to go for walk, walk it off!

well every one Take care most of all God bless!

bumping because I want to.

I felt it was time to revisit this thread. Especially given my experinces while I spent a month too tight, and where I am with my current struggles. I started this thread just over a year ago, it was one of my first posts here to LBT.

I recently spent several days in DC for my scholarship, and had to carefully figure out what I could and could not eat, carefully make sure I knew where all the restrooms were so I could make a break if I had to PB. It was odd.

On another board I belong to they have been talking about the importance of changing my lifestyle, and how I will never be successful as a bandster if I do not change my lifestyle. It's funny. I know they are right, but I know I've changed my lifestyle. I think one of the parts they are missing is the importance of changing the way we relate to food. The way I relate to food.

I never, ever thought it would come to this, but there are days where eating has become a chore to me. Eating is not something that is fun or enjoyable, as it was once before. It isn't to say that I don't revel in the flavors or textures, but food does not hold the allure it once held for me. Not all the time.

Some days it is a case of looking through my considerably empty pantry, asking myself if I really want to eat something or if I'm just bored. Usually, it is because I am bored so I wander away and find something else to do with my hands. I find myself sucking on pens and rings and things just to give my mouth and tounge and teeth something to do because I am not hungry. Because I do not want to eat.

And I marvel in that. Not wanting to eat, not eating because I'm not hungry.