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HI I KNOW ITS BEEN A WHILE I ACTUALLY DELETED THE APP OFF MY PHONE IVE BEEN GOING THREW A DEEP DEPRESSION ABOUT THIS JOURNEY AND IT WAS MAKING IT WORSE SEEING EVERYONE WITH GREAT RESULTS AND IM STRUGGLING I WAS SLEEVED FEB 17 SO IM ABOUT 3 MONTHS POST SURGERY IVE LOST 31 PONDS SO FAR BUT I DONT SEE ANY DIFFERENCE IN MY APPERANCE NOT THAT I DID IT FOR VANITY REASONS BUT I THOUHGT IT WOULD BE BETTER THAN THIS HOW ARE YOU DOING HOW IS YOUR JOURNEY COMING ALONG?

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Try to keep a positive attitude. 31 pounds in three months is over 10 pounds a month. Take a photo of yourself pre-op and put a photo of yourself now next to it. You should see a difference. Sometimes you lose inches and not weight. Keep positive and stay on track. Everyone's weight loss journey is their own. You will lose weight at your own rate. Don't judge your weight loss against anyone else.

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Just now, OutsideMatchInside said:

What does your food log look like daily?

Breakfast I HAVE YOGURT WITH GRONOLA

snack PROTIEN shake

lunch GRILLED chicken MOST DAYS

SNACK fruit LIKE APPLE OR SOME GRAPES

dinner SALMON OR CHICKEN GREEN VEGGIES

NO STARCHES WHAT SO EVER

NO CARBONATED drinks OR CAFFINE

JUST Water PLAIN OR WITH CRYSTAL LIGHT

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3 minutes ago, Redmaxx said:

Try to keep a positive attitude. 31 pounds in three months is over 10 pounds a month. Take a photo of yourself pre-op and put a photo of yourself now next to it. You should see a difference. Sometimes you lose inches and not weight. Keep positive and stay on track. Everyone's weight loss journey is their own. You will lose weight at your own rate. Don't judge your weight loss against anyone else.

THANKS FOR THE ENCOURAGING WORDS

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4 minutes ago, browngirl89 said:

BREAKFAST I HAVE YOGURT WITH GRONOLA

snack PROTIEN shake

lunch GRILLED chicken MOST DAYS

SNACK fruit LIKE APPLE OR SOME GRAPES

dinner SALMON OR chicken GREEN VEGGIES

NO STARCHES WHAT SO EVER

NO CARBONATED drinks OR CAFFINE

JUST Water PLAIN OR WITH CRYSTAL LIGHT

Give up the granola, and probably the yogurt and have dense Protein or a Protein Shake in the morning.

Give up the fruit until you have lost your weight. Fruit is still sugar, even if it is natural and comes with some Fiber.

Granola is a starch if it has oats in it.

The granola and fruit is probably slowing your weight loss, give it up for 2 weeks and see what happens.

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2 minutes ago, OutsideMatchInside said:

Give up the granola, and probably the yogurt and have dense Protein or a Protein shake in the morning.

Give up the fruit until you have lost your weight. Fruit is still sugar, even if it is natural and comes with some fiber.

Granola is a starch if it has oats in it.

The granola and fruit is probably slowing your weight loss, give it up for 2 weeks and see what happens.

ILL DEF GIVE IT A TRY THANKS

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3 minutes ago, krissyfattofab said:

What was your start weight? This is a good reminder of expectations as well. Many programs suggest eliminating Protein Shakes once you are on your normal diet cause they are high calorie. Don't be discouraged - it's a marathon, not a race.

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MY START WEIGHT WAS 259.0

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31 pds in 3 months? That's an awesome loss! I would personally prefer to lose slow vs rapidly but it seems to be out of my control. I'm down 43 pds since my surgery date 10 weeks ago. I think it's important to realize everyone has their own journey and our bodies are different. :) chin up, you're doing awesome!

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That is totally awesome! I think I'd lost 27# at three months and was pretty proud of that. Don't let stories of people losing sixty pounds in two months discourage you! We all lose differently. You've got this!

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It takes a lot of guts, strength and perseverance to keep going. I am four years and lost all motivation a year ago when I started gaining. No matter what I do, I cannot lose now. I would really encourage you to stay in a support group and get involved with positive things like yoga and friends to exercise with. Good luck.

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I can understand that. I'm 11 weeks post op and I have lost 34#. It's seems slow and I have yet to drop a size in my clothes (I have tightened my bra, but that's it). I was hoping by now I would be in smaller scrubs. They are definitely looser, but no size change yet. It's tough. I am a revision from lap band and I was slow then too. You just need to think it didn't come over night nor will you lose it over night. I am just keep doing my thing. Going to they gym 4 days a week for an hour. I'm trying not to go crazy, because I think that's what knocked me down last time. (I was going 6 days a week and sometimes twice a day, which isn't sustainable for me). I figure this way if I start to really stall I can bump it up.

Just keep working it and it will happen.


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