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As tactful of a response as that is, it still does not answer my question. If someone (anyone) is banned from 8 fat boards, is it reasonable to believe it is the person that is banned vs. everyone else that might have an issue?

Darn I can't figure out the multi-quote thing on the fly...

Sure it is reasonable. It is also reasonable to consider the herd mentality. It is the bane of the internet world that people can start over again and again without repercussion.

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and pointless, I don't think you have convinced anyone here that you were not aware of Dee's mental state.

What you are convinced of is not something I can do anything about. It is what it is. Dee was my friend, and at some point she wasn't.

News bulletin! I am NOT defending anyone. I have not mentioned a single name except Dee.

I THINK PEOPLE LIVE BY THE CHOICES THEY MAKE. If they are not what they claim, it usually comes out. Does it not? If you feel like you need to expose someone, then expose them! But where is the anger coming from? It seems kind of consuming.

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Darn I can't figure out the multi-quote thing on the fly...

Sure it is reasonable. It is also reasonable to consider the herd mentality. It is the bane of the internet world that people can start over again and again without repercussion.

But they were different people with different rules at various boards and she was banned by them all.

That tells me it might be more likely that Sandy brings these things on herself vs. it always being the rest of the world.

You know, people REALLY don't like her. When I used to go up against her on an issue you should have seen my mailbox fill up. I was floored each and every single time. People are afraid to post on OH because of the "herd mentality" and if they disagree with the clique, they are eaten alive.

That doesn't sound much like a support board to me. It's certainly not what the newbies need.

Honestly, I really believe Alex and Mods have done a great job here. We can piss and rant all we want in this section. The rest of the board is supportive and what it should be. It's not just this section of the board, it's ALL of LBT. People here don't want the drama and the BS for the most part. I have never had to take an issue to R&R because I wanted to have it out with someone. I come here because it's fun, I can rant about any 'ol thing I want, there are interesting topics, etc. But the real point is that I have never HAD to come here to have an issue with someone. We don't have that mentality here. At least not that I have seen or experienced.

That is the huge mega difference between OH and LBT. One is run like a pre school and the other is not. One is for people with social challenges and the other is for people that want to discuss band issues. One cannot agree to disagree the other can.

Honestly, I just can't think of anything nice to say about OH except that they have a nice section where you can start the research process on various docs.

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What you are convinced of is not something I can do anything about. It is what it is. Dee was my friend, and at some point she wasn't.

News bulletin! I am NOT defending anyone. I have not mentioned a single name except Dee.

I THINK PEOPLE LIVE BY THE CHOICES THEY MAKE. If they are not what they claim, it usually comes out. Does it not? If you feel like you need to expose someone, then expose them! But where is the anger coming from? It seems kind of consuming.

The anger is there because people are continuing to protect a lying, theiving, nurse-impersonating con artist. It's there because people continue to put her feelings before the feelings of the people she fooled and conned. The anger is there because those of us who chose to speak up civilly (and it was civil at that time) were attacked. Can you blame us for feeling a little put-out?

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If you feel like you need to expose someone, then expose them! But where is the anger coming from? It seems kind of consuming.

What in the world makes you think it is anger that causes the need to expose truth?

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What you are convinced of is not something I can do anything about. It is what it is. Dee was my friend, and at some point she wasn't.

News bulletin! I am NOT defending anyone. I have not mentioned a single name except Dee.

I THINK PEOPLE LIVE BY THE CHOICES THEY MAKE. If they are not what they claim, it usually comes out. Does it not? If you feel like you need to expose someone, then expose them! But where is the anger coming from? It seems kind of consuming.

Why, are you consumed with anger for some reason? You know it is possible to have a discussion/debate without getting angry.

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But they were different people with different rules at various boards and she was banned by them all.

That tells me it might be more likely that Sandy brings these things on herself vs. it always being the rest of the world.

You know, people REALLY don't like her. When I used to go up against her on an issue you should have seen my mailbox fill up. I was floored each and every single time. People are afraid to post on OH because of the "herd mentality" and if they disagree with the clique, they are eaten alive.

That doesn't sound much like a support board to me. It's certainly not what the newbies need.

Honestly, I really believe Alex and Mods have done a great job here. We can piss and rant all we want in this section. The rest of the board is supportive and what it should be. It's not just this section of the board, it's ALL of LBT. People here don't want the drama and the BS for the most part. I have never had to take an issue to R&R because I wanted to have it out with someone. I come here because it's fun, I can rant about any 'ol thing I want, there are interesting topics, etc. But the real point is that I have never HAD to come here to have an issue with someone. We don't have that mentality here. At least not that I have seen or experienced.

That is the huge mega difference between OH and LBT. One is run like a pre school and the other is not. One is for people with social challenges and the other is for people that want to discuss band issues. One cannot agree to disagree the other can.

Honestly, I just can't think of anything nice to say about OH except that they have a nice section where you can start the research process on various docs.

You win. I am so tired that I don't think I can even stay up for the rest of my 'Boys game tonight. I find benefit in both OH and LBT, as well as my other research tools. I have no social challenges in my life except not enough time - and I still go to OH. I don't get lumping an entire group of people into one slot because you don't like something. There are great people in both places. Anyway, g'night and thanks for the lively debate.:notagree

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What you are convinced of is not something I can do anything about. It is what it is. Dee was my friend, and at some point she wasn't.

News bulletin! I am NOT defending anyone. I have not mentioned a single name except Dee.

I THINK PEOPLE LIVE BY THE CHOICES THEY MAKE. If they are not what they claim, it usually comes out. Does it not? If you feel like you need to expose someone, then expose them! But where is the anger coming from? It seems kind of consuming.

Why, are you consumed with anger for some reason? You know it is possible to have a discussion/debate without getting angry.

I'm not angry. Some of YOU said you were angry.

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But they were different people with

Honestly, I just can't think of anything nice to say about OH except that they have a nice section where you can start the research process on various docs.

The state boards are nice too. From what I have seen most of the bullshit is on the Lapband and DS boards.

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What in the world makes you think it is anger that causes the need to expose truth?

I don't think that and didn't say that.

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I'm not angry. Some of YOU said you were angry. <br />
One person does not speak for everyone. Of course, you may not understand that, since you do support Sandy.

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The state boards are nice too. From what I have seen most of the bullshit is on the Lapband and DS boards.
Ehh. They're not bad, but they're mostly RNY. At least, the ones I went to were.

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One person does not speak for everyone. Of course, you may not understand that, since you do support Sandy.

You think?

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The state boards are nice too. From what I have seen most of the bullshit is on the Lapband and DS boards.

And don't forget the main board. That place was a shithole worse than the band board. Except instead of "Sandy vs. the sane," it was "band vs. RNY."

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