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You were ALWAYS decent to me, so there's no hard feelings towards you from me.

That makes me feel better - I generally speak from the heart, but sometimes I can be very reactionary and then will say anything. I try tho. :heh:

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It's who you're thinking of. I wish her the best with her pregnancy, but it doesn't change the way she treated me. I was absolutely humiliated. I had NEVER been treated that way before, and it just stunned me that she would treat someone like that with no more provocation than she had, and in front of the ENTIRE board, no less. The very least she could have done was to confront me through PMs instead of on the board. I'm sorry that she's had a tough row to hoe, I really am, but it doesn't mean she gets a free ticket to be vicious to people and treat them with so little respect. I'm sure she can be a really nice person, but that wasn't my experience with her.

I remember that, it was pretty horrible. THAT is the kind of stuff that really doesn't happen over here. If people disagree they are adult enough to say they disagree and move on. There is no absolute hate and anger here the way there is on OH.

People here are different. I mean... people here would help ANYONE that needed it. ANY fat person can come here and everyone will jump in and do anything they can for them. There are a couple of folks on LBT that aren't my favorite people in life but I'd do pretty much anything in my power to help them if there was something they needed. And they'd do the same for me.

That doesn't happen on OH, not unless you are one of the cheerleaders.

I was moderated for my "Cheerleader" theory :) on OH but I stand behind it. That IS what they are like. It's often said that nurses eat their young (they are mean to new grads) but the meanest old hags I have met in nursing don't compare to OH folks. There is simply no excuse for their behavior.

When I was moderated I came back with a new ID. Instead of KabukiCoyote I was Kabuki_Coyote. Not exactly trying to hide who I was. I never lied about any ID, never came on as a sock puppet, I even point blank explained ON THE BOARDS why I changed my ID and yet the grief for changing IDs and the accusations of sock puppets... just more OH drama. It just gets so old after time.

OH = Drama, hate, pack mentality, and cheerleaders.

LBT = Support, sincere caring about others, sharing ideas, and forming REAL friendships. No drama, no cheerleaders, just sanity. I love it here.

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I am guessing that I am that "someone who posted on this thread". I know about the email list - but I don't know who started it. I do know that it has been gone for a long time - at least I don't see any emails like that anymore. I think lots of people got caught up in things, as people often do, and eventually got their lives back. I seem to remember people asking to be dropped from the emails until it dried up. But then again I get over 300 emails per day between work and home, so I scan and delete most of the time. Point being - that email list is long gone, I believe.

I hope that you are right. It's good to know that some folks have moved beyond that type of thing.

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When I was moderated I came back with a new ID. Instead of KabukiCoyote I was Kabuki_Coyote. Not exactly trying to hide who I was. I never lied about any ID, never came on as a sock puppet, I even point blank explained ON THE BOARDS why I changed my ID and yet the grief for changing IDs and the accusations of sock puppets... just more OH drama. It just gets so old after time.

What's wrong with sock puppets?SMALLThe_Lurking_Sock_Puppet.jpg

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Wasn't it Sandy that got caught with sockpuppets?

Yeah, she's been caught on OH and her own doc's board.

She was banned from the Kuri board for a while, they caught her coming up with new IDs to support her stance in any given topic when others would disagree with her. She's back now, but moderated. Heh... They are back to watching her IP address and that of the newbies.

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Wait! I just read her profile and she says she's an educator FOR Kuri? I'm cornfuzzled.

She's writing a band booklet for him. The same thing she gives away to others and he's paying for it! HA!!!!

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You mean she REALLY IS an educator for Dr. Kuri???? I am sorry but I just assumed that was untrue as is the licensed nurse stuff and the band practitioner crap. A doc who banned her from his board is letting her write and info pamphlet for him?? I am speechless.....and that is rare. Bwaahaaaahaaa

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This is a pretty good example of what happens at OH. They are accusing the person of being a troll and maybe she is...but what if she isn't? What if she is a newbie who really is trying to just involved on the board? I don't know if she is on the level or not but neither do they........

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This is a pretty good example of what happens at OH. They are accusing the person of being a troll and maybe she is...but what if she isn't? What if she is a newbie who really is trying to just involved on the board? I don't know if she is on the level or not but neither do they........

Interestingly, NancyB recently suggested to someone that they should do a colonic cleanse to help alleviate the symptoms that they were having. Trouble is the person had an erosion that ended up being a medical emergency. OH seems to be the place to go if you want cheep advice from non-professionals as well as this kind of crap.

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You mean she REALLY IS an educator for Dr. Kuri???? I am sorry but I just assumed that was untrue as is the licensed nurse stuff and the band practitioner crap. A doc who banned her from his board is letting her write and info pamphlet for him?? I am speechless.....and that is rare. Bwaahaaaahaaa

Yep. For years she's been claiming to work for him and now she actually does. All she's doing is writing a band booklet from what I understand. Something she GIVES away to everyone else. ;)

Just because someone is a doc doesn't mean they are good business people. :cry

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Interestingly, NancyB recently suggested to someone that they should do a colonic cleanse to help alleviate the symptoms that they were having. Trouble is the person had an erosion that ended up being a medical emergency. OH seems to be the place to go if you want cheep advice from non-professionals as well as this kind of crap.

Great. One can only guess what symptoms require a colonic cleansing.

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Interestingly, NancyB recently suggested to someone that they should do a colonic cleanse to help alleviate the symptoms that they were having. Trouble is the person had an erosion that ended up being a medical emergency. OH seems to be the place to go if you want cheep advice from non-professionals as well as this kind of crap.

Are you talking about me? Nancy B from OH? Please explain!

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Just making sure, this thread is in R-n-R, right? Good, so we're ready for the dr*ma.

Nancy B:dunno, looks like skmsu recently joined here. Hopefully she'll be back and can explain...

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