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I don't think it's the greatest idea but you have to do you. If you are compelled to have the surg on your own, then go for it. But be prepared for the backlash when you return to your hubby. It may get ugly. Have you thought of telling him just before you leave. At least then he won't feel so betrayed and you won't have to listen to his negativity.


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I'm no relationship doctor but I certainly would not go through a relationship where I couldn't tell my spouse something like this. However, that's just me.

Regardless of that, I hope you do what's best for your health and understand the surgery is not a magic fix, that psychological and nutritional issues (if any) should be resolved before you get the surgery done. You will most certainly benefit from having help post-op for several weeks, especially if you have kids and they're young. Your energy will likely go kaput.

If you have any family you can lean on it would be a good time to possibly dial them up too.

I am sorry you are in such a bad spot.
That doesn't sound like a healthy marriage, in my humble opinion.
Have you two tried marriage counseling?
That would be a start.
Having major surgery without telling your spouse is also not a good idea.
I think you need to work on your marriage before you run off to get surgery.
If he doesn't support you, or love you enough to support you then that is a whole separate issue.
Sorry to hear you are having these issues.
My wife and I are trying to get sleeved together.

That's deep!!!!!!!

Haha yeah I actually tried to delete this thread but I can't find a delete button so I just changed the post.

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I did tell my husband. He is my greatest cheerleader, which surprises me. However, I did threaten his life if he told anyone

I did tell my husband. He is my greatest cheerleader, which surprises me. However, I did threaten his life if he told anyone

Really? Do you think people will notice? I suppose It depends on your starting weight if people will question it.

Really? Do you think people will notice? I suppose It depends on your starting weight if people will question it.

Well you don't have to worry if people will notice I battled the same thing but I'm at the point where it's my life and I want to be healthy and I'm 18 now so there for I don't have to answer to no one(except my parents and they are by my side the whole way ) if you need to tell people how you lost weight just say you portion out your food technically that's what you are doing the surgery is doing it for you though .