I thought my husband would be okay, even though he expressed to me he didn't want me to have the surgery. He has been distance and is upset with me.

I've tried talking to him but that doesn't do anything.

I don't know if he will get over it or if this is the beginning of forever.

We have 4 kids and it's hard , resting doesn't even seem like an option. My husband works all day so I'm home. No one lives near us and I even kept this surgery a secret.

I can't rewind time

I need prayer

I need help

This is definitely a roller coaster of emotions.

Everything happens for a reason...

Pre op I was able to lose 25 lbs and doing that proved that I can lose weight.
But I told him it's a yo yo effect. For 5 years I go up and down 50 lbs and can never get where I want.
He doesn't like the idea of surgery possibly scared something would happen.

He definitely didn't like me overweight, before we had kids I was a healthy 215lbs and as years came and more kids came I was always 300lbs

I wasn't happy with myself and now I'm ready to take control of something I have battled all my life my weight.

I'm very happy today...
I'm literally 10 pounds from my pregnancy weight from my very first child which was 10 years ago!

Continue to pray for me, my marriage and health.
Today my husband seemed a little more at ease. Which is comforting, he wanted to watch a movie after dinner and cuddle.

Progress! Good news. You and I are sharing the same life right now lol. My husband doesn't want me overweight but doesn't want me to have the surgery just because he's scared something will happen and believes it's unnecessary since I've lost 53 pounds preop and prove that I can lose in my own. The problem is, I'm a yo yo and have never been able to get anywhere near the weight I was when we met.
He says he will support my decision if I feel it's best and I'm prepared for the distance for awhile too because that's how he handles stress and frustration and fear. We have 6 kids that we care for (3 biological and 3 non biological) so I won't be able to rest either.
If he's anything like my husband, he will get much better as time progresses and just needs to see a happy and healthy wife through it all - even on days you feel like utter dirt.


HW: 328 (02/21/17)
CW: 275 (preop 53# disowned)

By the way, I also love far away from family and have kept this decision a secret from everyone except my husband. I feel the solidarity.


HW: 328 (02/21/17)
CW: 275 (preop 53# disowned)

I wasn't happy with myself and now I'm ready to take control of something I have battled all my life my weight.

That's the key love! Hang in there

Thank you everyone!
I'm almost 4 months Post op and things have been getting better so far.
I'm having a hormone imbalance which sucks tremendously. My doctor is suggesting birth control pills to help regulate my menstrals .
I've been experiencing a lot of things I never thought I would.
But never the less I'm still hanging on for the ride.

I've been experiencing a lot of things I never thought I would.
But never the less I'm still hanging on for the ride.





What kind of things? And how is your husband now? Hopefully better?

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