I went to Sam's today and got 2 cases of shakes and bars for my 2 week pre-op diet. I have to start Wednesday of next week. Since I left Sam's I have this overwhelming since of fear. Buying those shakes have made this so real. I'm so afraid that I will fail. At this point failure is not an option. I'm 41 years old with a beautiful 4 year old daughter.(my only child) I have to live for my daughter. She deserves a mother who can actively participate in her life. I am feeling so overwhelmed right now. I really need an encouraging words.

It is overwhelming! But it gets easier and is definitely worth it! You can do it!

Had my surgery on 2/9. I totally understand how you are feeling. When you start to doubt yourself think of all the reasons why you are doing this.

I'm a single mother of 3 young kids oldest is 7 so I know how u feel I had my band done 21 Oct 2016 I can already see and feel the difference so good luck on your journey [emoji4]

You can do this just write down all the positives and why's of going through this procedure. In the end you will feel better and more encouraged! You are worth it and you can do this! Good luck!

SW309 SURGERY Date 1/26/2017 CURRENT WEIGHT 285

Thanks guys. I am feeling a little better today. Even though I had a restless night. I explained to my daughter that the doctor was going to help me lose weight so that I could do lots of things with her. I drug my treadmill to her play room last night and walked while she played. She stopped in the middle of playing and said mommy you're doing so good. I'm so proud of you. My heart just melted. So when she woke up this morning she said mommy I'm so excited for the doctor to help you. She then yelled when you lose weight we are going to have so much fun. We can run and play and ride bikes together. That made me feel so much better. I love my husband but my daughter is the reason I'm figuring this fight.

You can do this!! You're doing the best thing you can for your daughter.


RNY 6/8/15 SW 248 LW 175 CW 201 GW 180 "Eat to be the person you want to be."

Get some neon paper. You and your daughter make signs to hang around the house with encouraging tidbits. She can draw pictures of you riding bikes or whatever. When you become disheartened, look at your signs for a boost!

I went to Sam's today and got 2 cases of shakes and bars for my 2 week pre-op diet. I have to start Wednesday of next week. Since I left Sam's I have this overwhelming since of fear. Buying those shakes have made this so real. I'm so afraid that I will fail. At this point failure is not an option. I'm 41 years old with a beautiful 4 year old daughter.(my only child) I have to live for my daughter. She deserves a mother who can actively participate in her life. I am feeling so overwhelmed right now. I really need an encouraging words.

It will be all worth it. I'm 35 with a 5yr old daughter...my one and only We need to be around for them. This step will increase our chances of watching them grow to be independent successful adults. Im in phase one...seeing the nutritionist. Best of luck

When is your surgery? I'm 46 with a nearly 7 year old and I completely understand where you are coming from. I had a moment of panic and then I quickly decided to replace it with excitement about the new me. I'm totally focusing on the new body I'm going to have and reading only positive stories. Keeps me in a positive headspace. I also downloaded the headspace app and started meditating. There is also a 7 min exercise app using no special equipment that I downloaded and started. Small steps. They all add to the journey.

On 3/21/2017 at 9:18 AM, linasg said:

. I had a moment of panic and then I quickly decided to replace it with excitement about the new me. I'm totally focusing on the new body I'm going to have and reading only positive stories. Keeps me in a positive headspace.

That made such a difference for me, focusing not just on why I'm doing this (we'll be adopting soon, and I want to be there for our kiddos and wife) but also making sure I focus on the positive stories

there are are a lot of bloggers out there with negative or cynical styles and that was making me more depressed and anxious. I didn't want to have surgery only to become joyless.

Now I'm convinced a lot of it is attitudinal and reminding myself that has also been helping because I want to get better as quickly as I can and get back to doing the things I love to do.