DISCLAIMER: I believe that everyone has a right to privacy, and this includes whether or not to tell anyone about having WLS. My question below is merely for debate and discussion.

Now that I have that out of the way, I want to pose a question. In situations where someone wants to keep their surgery a "secret," does that support some people's belief that WLS is something to be ashamed of? I'm just curious. I, of course, don't believe that it is anything to be ashamed of, but I could see how someone narrow-minded enough to believe that WLS is a "quick fix" or "easy way out" could leap to that conclusion in that situation.

I'm just curious about what others think about this situation. And again, tell or don't tell -- that is each person's personal prerogative.

I'm not ashamed but I also don't think every single person in my life has to know all my business. pre-op it was more superstitious I didn't want people's bad vibes & now post op I just don't see the benefit in it. I just don't see how telling every single coworker makes a difference my very close friends know, my cousin who's an RN & my husband & a close neighbor but I'm like this in general pretty private if there was someone I know that can benefit from it I'll tell but my 120 pound coworker who doesn't even know my dogs name I don't see why she should know such private info.

10 minutes ago, Sugarnspice said:

I'm not ashamed but I also don't think every single person in my life has to know all my business. pre-op it was more superstitious I didn't want people's bad vibes & now post op I just don't see the benefit in it. I just don't see how telling every single coworker makes a difference my very close friends know, my cousin who's an RN & my husband & a close neighbor but I'm like this in general pretty private if there was someone I know that can benefit from it I'll tell but my 120 pound coworker who doesn't even know my dogs name I don't see why she should know such private info.

I agree that no person has or needs to tell everyone or anyone anything particular thing about his/her personal life. But over the past many months, I have read countless posts about people concocting elaborate stories to conceal the fact that they had WLS. My question was born out of wondering if this kind of behavior supports an uninformed and incorrect belief of some that the surgery is something to be ashamed of.

Yea I don't think I'll go to extreme measures to conceal it either. It's not a secret really just a personal part of my life I wouldn't openly discuss my hysterectomy or my IUD either so I guess it's the same thing