Cracker Barrel

[savyourdvine1 110]

When I first read the Initial question I felt everyone commenting concerning what they ate made a conscience decision to eat what they did.
That being said.... no one ever lost control. And that's really what this is all about. Staying in control. For example, some people being very strict..... is the way it must be done to avoid "slippery slopes" then you do you, and save yourself. Yet for others being very strict causes a "slippery slope"so you have to do you. Let us all focus on questions asked and respect each others difference thus avoiding offences.

[Middus 491]

When I first read the Initial question I felt everyone commenting concerning what they ate made a conscience decision to eat what they did.

That being said.... no one ever lost control. And that's really what this is all about. Staying in control. For example, some people being very strict..... is the way it must be done to avoid "slippery slopes" then you do you, and save yourself. Yet for others being very strict causes a "slippery slope"so you have to do you. Let us all focus on questions asked and respect each others difference thus avoiding offences.

Exactly. Some weeks ago, I was with my nieces at Disney. It was afternoon, and they wanted icecream. After a while they would offer me but I would say no. Then they started making a fuss, so I accepted it from them. Combined, it was like 1/2 a cup. Funny enough, it was my first ice cream in 18 months.

I never cared much for icecream before surgery, neither do I now after surgery.. but i almost wanted to ask if it was okay to have icecream (as a sleever) because I didn't want a running stomach at Disney. I decided not to ask, lest i recieve a lecture about 'how my icecream eating ways got me to where I was'.

Anyway. My advice is two-way.

Many of us are 'sensitive' people, and I hope people keep that in mind. The goal is to advise in such a way that it won't be rebuffed. Some people are just curious. They ask for 'safety', not because they need 'enablers' or because they are looking for justification to begin bad habits.

On the other hand, we should accept that many people give 'straight to the point' answers/lectures, either based on past experience, or on (a) negative outcome(s) they have seen happen. The answer you may interpret as being harsh or judgemental, may simply be concern.

[BigViffer 3,545]

@Middus - as usual, you seem to be able to intuit the point easily. Really glad to newer members like you on the forum.

[danaymacklin 177]

When I first read the Initial question I felt everyone commenting concerning what they ate made a conscience decision to eat what they did.
That being said.... no one ever lost control. And that's really what this is all about. Staying in control. For example, some people being very strict..... is the way it must be done to avoid "slippery slopes" then you do you, and save yourself. Yet for others being very strict causes a "slippery slope"so you have to do you. Let us all focus on questions asked and respect each others difference thus avoiding offences.

Agreed and well said!

[danaymacklin 177]

Exactly. Some weeks ago, I was with my nieces at Disney. It was afternoon, and they wanted icecream. After a while they would offer me but I would say no. Then they started making a fuss, so I accepted it from them. Combined, it was like 1/2 a cup. Funny enough, it was my first ice cream in 18 months.
I never cared much for icecream before surgery, neither do I now after surgery.. but i almost wanted to ask if it was okay to have icecream (as a sleever) because I didn't want a running stomach at Disney. I decided not to ask, lest i recieve a lecture about 'how my icecream eating ways got me to where I was'.
Anyway. My advice is two-way.
Many of us are 'sensitive' people, and I hope people keep that in mind. The goal is to advise in such a way that it won't be rebuffed. Some people are just curious. They ask for 'safety', not because they need 'enablers' or because they are looking for justification to begin bad habits.
On the other hand, we should accept that many people give 'straight to the point' answers/lectures, either based on past experience, or on (a) negative outcome(s) they have seen happen. The answer you may interpret as being harsh or judgemental, may simply be concern.

Great share! In my business I tell people all the time...you can say whatever you want to say, it's HOW you say it.

[savyourdvine1 110]

I hear what you're saying Middus. But let me say this.... Those that ask questions to fail, will! And those that think the question is foolish probable shouldn't respond. Nothing we can say or do to stop people from sabotaging. So why take a negative approach to a question? We all need to take a positive approach towards each question as though people really need to know for lack of knowledge, regardless of why the question is being asked.

[KathyLynn160 27]

I just asked if anyone knew when it would be ok to eat them. I never said I was going out any time soon to get them. I know I can't have any kind of breads, pastry, or Pasta at this moment. But, thanks everyone for the info.
And yes, I hit my Protein, Fluid, and calaries every day.

[Newme17 3,444]

I just asked if anyone knew when it would be ok to eat them. I never said I was going out any time soon to get them. I know I can't have any kind of breads, pastry, or Pasta at this moment. But, thanks everyone for the info.
And yes, I hit my Protein, Fluid, and calaries every day.

Oh KathyLynn160....see what you started!? [emoji23] [emoji23][emoji23]

[danaymacklin 177]

I just asked if anyone knew when it would be ok to eat them. I never said I was going out any time soon to get them. I know I can't have any kind of breads, pastry, or Pasta at this moment. But, thanks everyone for the info.
And yes, I hit my Protein, Fluid, and calaries every day.

My point exactly!

[Middus 491]

3 hours ago, KathyLynn160 said:

I just asked if anyone knew when it would be ok to eat them. I never said I was going out any time soon to get them. I know I can't have any kind of breads, pastry, or Pasta at this moment. But, thanks everyone for the info.
And yes, I hit my Protein, Fluid, and calaries every day.

Agreed. It was a simple question that should have been answered as asked. Any concerns harboured by the responder should perhaps have been better framed.

[blondie66 271]

Enjoy the dumplings!! The honeymoon phase doesn't last so enjoy it while you can! At that early stage u can't eat enough Protein anyway have to drink shakes to get it...well that was my experience.