How do many of you deal with invasive comments such as "Aren't you getting too thin?" and "You don't plan to lose much more weight, do you?"

I am still overweight! I am 5'9" and currently weigh 178, so still at least 13 more lbs until I am at the high end of normal BMI. I think people just have it in their head that I am "supposed" to look one way, and can't seem to wrap their heads around the change. This comment is happening (in some variation) on a nearly daily basis. The other possibility is that I have lost a lot of mid-face volume as I am middle-aged. I have really high cheekbones, so I think that this makes it seem that I am much thinner (just from looking at my face) than I actually am, and that I may appear a bit...gaunt, when I am actually still overweight. Did this resolve for others over time? I've just been saying that my goal is a healthy BMI that meets my doctor's goals, but the comments are getting old. I've made myself a promise to remove toxic people from my life, but those commenting seem genuinely concerned, not malicious or jealous.

Edited February 3, 20179 yr by WillWorkForShoes

When figuring out goal weights, keep 2 things in mind:

1. Extra skin has weight. If a healthy BMI = 140lbs, most bariatric patients probably have 5-10 pounds of loose skin. So the patient is equally healthy at 145 or 150.

2. Most patients gain back about 10lbs after reaching goal.

So if your ultimate goal is 140, try to get to 135, and don't panic when the scale gets back to 145.

Long story short.. have a 10 pound goal range instead of a magic #.