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Thank you everyone for your encouraging words of wisdom ... after I posted last night I went to a local support group and felt much better then I logged on and saw all these responses thank you for taking your time to post a response to me... feeling better

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Hey Laurie,

Think about the EXTRA 8-10 years you're ADDING to your life...I think about those extra years and special times I WILL have with my son:) and now let the Peace & Calm flow thru!! Good Luck to all of us out here looking for that extra support to get us through!!

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Hey Laurie,

Think about the EXTRA 8-10 years you're ADDING to your life...I think about those extra years and special times I WILL have with my son:) and now let the Peace & Calm flow thru!! Good Luck to all of us out here looking for that extra support to get us through!!

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@@Itsmytime23 thank you I needed that today

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I was sleeved 2 weeks ago today. I too freaked out the night before..I only had to do liquid 3 days pre-op, honestly I was so hungry and out of my mind had I had to do 12 days I would not have gone through with it. That makes it so much harder. Almost at the end of week too and its been rough, I have had buyers remorse a lot. Today was a good day..was not too hungry and didn't think about food. One day at a time and this is only temporary...we will socialize and eat again..only much less. If you can make it thru 12 days you will do fine.

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I had my surgery on Jan 20th 2017. I was extremely scared and even asked myself.. is this really necessary... I was telling myself.. I can do this without surgery... but then I realized that is what I have been telling myself my whole life... and it just wasnt working out. I needed a tool to help me stick to it.. It will not be easy, but it will be worth it. I promise

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I'm 4 months out and have started going out again. Yes, I am a total foodie so I'll address that: it's usually fine. Sure, at its most extreme it's little weird getting the plain, grilled chicken breast or burger, no bun, but it's really just low-carb. Everyone's seen it before. And a lot of places have Protein appetizers. "I'm not all that hungry - I'll just have the chicken skewer appetizer." Sometimes I share a plate, or just pick out what I want and get the rest to go.

My sister (just very healthy) is the queen of ordering it her way - eggs Benedict on Tomato slices instead of muffin; can you do grilled veggies instead of potatoes? Can you do that in a lettuce wrap? Can I get that over broccoli instead of Pasta? It's basically a good habit we're now trying to get the kids onboard with, too. No, I'm not buying junk for your friends but I'll make Greek yogurt ranch and get cucumber slices to dip with and serve it with a side of spicy pepperoni and Parmesan crisps.

It's not a bad way of eating, it's just different. But then again, I was ready to change my life and be done with the crap. I'm still getting used to it - and *always* have emergency purse food like nuts, meat sticks, olives - but I've also made amazing discoveries about what restaurants will do if you ask. For the first time in my life I'm not starving all the time. For the first time I don't want sugar/fat/salt all.the.time. I want to travel the world, be able to hike without everything hurting, not worry if that chair can hold my weight. That's why I'm trying to focus on the nourishing food I can eat and coming up with plans to make that work.

As for potlucks, I usually bring something I can eat and drink a Protein Shake in the car . "OMG - I had such a big Breakfast, I just don't think I can eat another thing..."

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      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
      Soooo I am coming to a realization
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      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
      Soooo I am coming to a realization
      of something and I'm not sure what to do about it. For years the only thing I've enjoyed is eating. We rarely do anything or go anywhere and if we do it always includes food. Family comes over? Big family dinner! Go camping? Food! Take a short ride or trip? Food! Holiday? Food! Go out of town for a Dr appointment? Food! When we go to a new town we don't look for any attractions, we look for restaurants we haven't been to. Heck, I look forward to getting off work because that means it's almost supper time. Now that I'm drinking these pre-op shakes for breakfast, lunch, and supper I have nothing to look forward to.  And once I have surgery on June 11th it'll be more of the same shakes. Even after pureed stage, soft food stage, and finally regular food stage, it's going to be a drastic change for the rest of my life. I'm giving up the one thing that really brings me joy. Eating. How do you cope with that? What do you do to fill that void? Wow. Now I'm sad.
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      1. summerseeker

        Life as a big person had limited my life to what I knew I could manage to do each day. That was eat. I hadn't anything else to look forward to. So my eating choices were the best I could dream up. I planned the cooking in managable lots in my head and filled my day with and around it.

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        BTW, the liquid diet sucks, one more day and you are over the worst. You can do it.

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