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@@Walter.Sobchak thats the first step my friend, i had to do that to realize woah is that me?! How in the hell did i get this unhealthy!? Then youll move on to new steps towards change for a better you. I know i am. Good luck to you every step of the way????

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Thank you.

Have you had the surgery yet? Or are you working towards getting it?

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@@Walter.Sobchak my surgery will be March 1st im nervous and scared but i must do this

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I feel the same way.

I am scared, I hate being put under anesthesia.

I am also scared of the changes that the sleeve will make, but like you I have to do it.

I am so miserable with my weight.

My body hurts all the time and I have some serious health issues.

In October of 2015 I was getting abdominal pain and I went to see a specialist and he diagnosed me with Fatty Liver Disease.

He said I needed to lose 40 pounds, I have since put on 20 pounds.

I didn't lose any weight and I packed on another 20 pounds.

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Acceptance is the first step. When I saw myself in a pic I was like ONG , why didn't anyone tell me I was that big? I thought I was sexy , lol ????. But , I knew my size I just felt it was ok but when the health issues started, I had my epiphany. You are not alone. But I'm glad you are willing to take the steps to make a change in your life.

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I had the same issue! I could see the number on the scale but when I looked in the mirror I didn't feel big it didn't hit me until I saw myself in a picture and realized how big I truly was. This prompted me to go see my doctor and now I'm in the process of getting the sleeve done and I'm so happy that I finally took this step! Good luck to you and your journey!

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I had the same issue! I could see the number on the scale but when I looked in the mirror I didn't feel big it didn't hit me until I saw myself in a picture and realized how big I truly was. This prompted me to go see my doctor and now I'm in the process of getting the sleeve done and I'm so happy that I finally took this step! Good luck to you and your journey!

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Thank you.

My appointment is tomorrow.

It is with a surgeon one of my wife's coworkers recommended.

My wife saw him about 2 weeks ago.

I am nervous.

I am always afraid a doctor will fat shame me.

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I have that fear too but I have found that that every doctor that I have had to see along this process is so much more understanding than any of my primary care physicians Ive seen in the past

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That is what my wife said about this surgeon and his staff.

She said everyone was awesome and no one shamed her.

I had a doctor actually call me fat, not overweight, not obese he literally said fat.

He said, "it's not just that you are fat, it's that it is affecting your organs"

That really hurt my feelings.

I didn't go back to him, I found a new doctor.

How far along are you in the process?

Do you have a surgery date scheduled yet?

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Oh the fat shaming :( my poor hubby went to our family dr. And she said, "well, even if you are too hurt to exercise, you can stop stuffing your face" or something to that effect...

So he feels so bad, he goes and gets a Big Mac...

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Oh the fat shaming :( my poor hubby went to our family dr. And she said, "well, even if you are too hurt to exercise, you can stop stuffing your face" or something to that effect...

So he feels so bad, he goes and gets a Big Mac...

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Yeah that's not too cool.

This wasn't my primary doctor, my primary doctor is great.

His mother in law got gastric sleeve and he has been recommending that I get it for like 3 years.

The doctor that called me fat was a gastrointestinal doctor.

I went to another specialist who was way cooler, he talked to me about my weight but wasn't so hurtful about it.

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Glad it was an easily replaceable specialist. Good for you! No sense giving your business to the insensitive ;)

I see our family Dr. on Thursday to talk about weight loss surgery. Let's see just how much she wants us to stop stuffing our faces! (I need her participation for my insurance).

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Hello All,

I had a realization the other day, I am in denial about my size.

I do not see myself the same way the world sees me.

I saw a picture of myself and it was shocking, I am huge.

In my head I don't look that bad.

I have always been a big guy.

In college I was big and muscular and that is how I still see myself.

However, now I am big and soft and obese but I don't see myself that way.

I have to get honest with myself.

I am 420 pounds, I am wearing a 6XLT shirt, waist size 54 pants.

I am 200 pounds heavier than I was at 21 years old.

I have my appointment with the weight loss surgeon in less than a week.

I have received some encouraging responses on this forum, so I thank all of you for that.

I'm a woman yet I can relate. I don't think I'm that big until I look at myself completely naked in the mirror or see "stolen" shots of me. It's depressing but there is a light at the end of the tunnel with the weight loss surgery.

Height 5'0"

Weight for consultation: 216 lbs.

Pre-op Weight: Unknown until January 20th.

My profile picture is not me. It's my "FitSpiration" body.

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Hello All,

I had a realization the other day, I am in denial about my size.

I do not see myself the same way the world sees me.

I saw a picture of myself and it was shocking, I am huge.

In my head I don't look that bad.

I have always been a big guy.

In college I was big and muscular and that is how I still see myself.

However, now I am big and soft and obese but I don't see myself that way.

I have to get honest with myself.

I am 420 pounds, I am wearing a 6XLT shirt, waist size 54 pants.

I am 200 pounds heavier than I was at 21 years old.

I have my appointment with the weight loss surgeon in less than a week.

I have received some encouraging responses on this forum, so I thank all of you for that.

I'm a woman yet I can relate. I don't think I'm that big until I look at myself completely naked in the mirror or see "stolen" shots of me. It's depressing but there is a light at the end of the tunnel with the weight loss surgery.

Height 5'0"

Weight for consultation: 216 lbs.

Pre-op Weight: Unknown until January 20th.

My profile picture is not me. It's my "FitSpiration" body.

I understand.

Plus society is so much harder on overweight women than they are men, it really isn't fair.

Is that Ashley Graham in your profile picture? She is beautiful.

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I haven't allowed anyone to take or have pictures of me full length in years. I don't even own a full length mirror. I always see myself from the chest/neck up and in my mind's eye I am the size I was when I was just "chubby"... seeing the "before" picture they took at my surgeon's office a week ago shocked me... I had no idea what I really looked like despite seeing what the scale said whenever I had a doctors appointment and was forced to step onto one.

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This summer I had to sell my horse. My hubby took pictures and video of her while I was leading her around. Those glimpses of me in the footage were shocking to me...

It's amazing how I just can't see myself, even while looking in the mirror!

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      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
      Soooo I am coming to a realization
      of something and I'm not sure what to do about it. For years the only thing I've enjoyed is eating. We rarely do anything or go anywhere and if we do it always includes food. Family comes over? Big family dinner! Go camping? Food! Take a short ride or trip? Food! Holiday? Food! Go out of town for a Dr appointment? Food! When we go to a new town we don't look for any attractions, we look for restaurants we haven't been to. Heck, I look forward to getting off work because that means it's almost supper time. Now that I'm drinking these pre-op shakes for breakfast, lunch, and supper I have nothing to look forward to.  And once I have surgery on June 11th it'll be more of the same shakes. Even after pureed stage, soft food stage, and finally regular food stage, it's going to be a drastic change for the rest of my life. I'm giving up the one thing that really brings me joy. Eating. How do you cope with that? What do you do to fill that void? Wow. Now I'm sad.
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