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Although I am doing this for myself and I started this all alone. By alone I mean I chose to be alone at the hospital. I chose to be alone post surgery. A handful of people were aware of my intentions to have surgery. But I chose to go through all my consultations, appointments and surgery alone. Even chose not accept rides to and from hospital with anyone.

I don't feel alone anymore. I have a wonderful boyfriend who supports my health and fitness goals and encourages me with his positive vibes. He himself has been Mr. Fitness all his life. It's good to have someone who supports you without judgement. I am grateful our paths crossed and he has become an integral part of my journey.

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Definitely my mom. I'm a college student on winter break and I was sleeved last week so I've been at home a few weeks and honestly my mom is a lifesaver. She's encouraging especially as I'm getting frustrated with getting my fluids in and has been super helpful with buying the liquids and soft foods I can eat.

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Yep I totally get you. I pretty much did the same. This is about me and my choices. To live happier, healthier and longer by eating and doing the right things for me first, by me taking care of me I can take care of those I love. My Twin 15 years old boys have been there with me a few times but because I think they wanted to understand. I will be making healthier choices for me and them. I hate this because I am not a selfish person. It takes some getting used to.

Your doing the right thing. I am 1 week post op. and am already feelin it. Better, smarter for my choices & a ton happier.

toniHa

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I've luckily gotten a lot more support than I anticipated. Even the people who've said stupid things have generally said them with good intent.

I too did the hospital by myself mostly. I had a friend drop me off and pick me up, but quite frankly that was more so they would quit bugging me as it would've been so much easier to take an Uber.

People have been super supportive and it really has meant the world to me.

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My friends and family have all been terrific about me wanting to do this. Two friends I could tell may have been a little unsure, but have never said anything discouraging about it. They struggle with their weight, but like 10 pounds which is something I can fluctuate in a day, so I think it seems drastic to them.

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My 13 year old son packed my "lunch" for tomorrow since I have to go into the office. But everyone has been amazing.

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My husband, he has been super supportive but helps me stick to plan when I need it or just listens to me as I spend hours looking for new recipes, prepping meal plans and making him taste test things for me. Him and my son give me hugs when I'm discouraged or upset and make me laugh at myself . I'm lucky to have them

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My sweetie! She is extremely supportive. She is also putting up with me during this hormone dumping because other than my height I'm typically not short. I have been mildly short since surgery and I apologize. She laughs and says it's fine.

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My spouse (who wants the sleeve as well) and my sister (who's had a bypass already).

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My wife has been my biggest supporter. But I didn't keep my surgery a secret and was very open with why I wanted to do it. I have found support everywhere, from my coworkers, family, and even some strangers that I run into. Feels like everyone is pulling for me!

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      Soooo I am coming to a realization
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