Soooo yesterday I met a few of my Fiancée family for the first time. Okay cool but of course the first thing said is..... Marvin Love's those Big Girls (No he only loves me.... He's ex was petite rolls eyes)! Followed by she's Beautiful tho.... What type of Sh!t is that! I'm telling you I'm so tired of hearing this and if I had a dollar for every time a person says this to me I would be rich! Anyway as usual I didn't reply to the ignorant statement but in my head I just wondered what will people say about me once the weight is gone? It's seems to me that weight is the ultimate issue with ppl, and there were so many ppl around I wonder did everyone get a grand announcement when they arrived? Such as ( Oh look here uncle John with his new wife she's missing all her teeth or wow Carla boyfriends here I noticed he still has bad acme...) but no they only see the Big Girl, I can never go unnoticed when I enter the room.

5'5 280 and high heels....... Of course I make heads turn! Just wait I hope things play and I get my January surgery date

When I was back in college, I was working out at a local gym. There was an older woman on the treadmill next to me. We started talking, and I forget what we had been talking about ...but she looked at me and said "well, you are big but you have such beautiful skin." SERIOUSLY?

Smh I lived my whole life feeling as tho I had to represent for the "big girls"; everything they doubted a big girl could do my mission was to prove them wrong. Don't let them get to you. Confidence kills at any size

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Edited November 25, 20169 yr by macon_me

as usual I didn't reply to the ignorant statement but in my head I just wondered what will people say about me once the weight is gone? ..... uncle John with his new wife she's missing all her teeth......Carla boyfriends here I noticed he still has bad acme...) but no they only see the Big Girl, I can never go unnoticed when I enter the room.

I'm sure Marvin is charming and knows how to behave like a human being. It's just his family....

It can play out in different ways. When you lose the weight, they won't notice you or they'll make a big fuss and say more stupid things. At least the stupid things will be a new script. If they take the low, ignorant road next year, you can have fun planting wicked seeds. Whisper to one of them, "Did you ask Uncle John's wife if she plans on getting false teeth so that she can enjoy the turkey?" "Does Carla's boyfriend see a dermatologist?"

Just kidding, but you can have some fun thinking of ways to start trouble amongst them. At the same time, imagine them naked.

There was an older woman on the treadmill next to me. We started talking, and I forget what we had been talking about ...but she looked at me and said "well, you are big but you have such beautiful skin." SERIOUSLY?

At least you didn't have Carla's boyfriend's problem. And you got revenge now, referring to the woman's age.

Well now people talk about how big my boobs are and how small my waist is. Or other things about my body. And these are strangers that have no idea how large I used to be.

Losing weight is trading one set of problems for a different set of problems.

If you stand out to people like I do, you always will, and they will always find something to say. Some people just attract attention. I do, I don't care what people think anymore though. They are going to talk no matter what, might as well give them something good to talk about.

Sounds like you carry yourself well....and they are hating because even though RIGHT NOW they're smaller than you are, they don't have that special something to pull off the things you wear. They really gonna hate when they see those pounds fall off and you up your swag even more!

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When I was back in college, I was working out at a local gym. There was an older woman on the treadmill next to me. We started talking, and I forget what we had been talking about ...but she looked at me and said "well, you are big but you have such beautiful skin." SERIOUSLY?

Only if they knew how rude their statements are...

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Smh I lived my whole life feeling as tho I had to represent for the "big girls"; everything they doubted a big girl could do my mission was to prove them wrong. Don't let them get to you. Confidence kills at any size

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I've always been the Big girl, and always heard your pretty to be Big thats just as crazy as the other favorite thing ppl tell me. Your pretty to be dark skin.... Like really keep your fake butt complement

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as usual I didn't reply to the ignorant statement but in my head I just wondered what will people say about me once the weight is gone? ..... uncle John with his new wife she's missing all her teeth......Carla boyfriends here I noticed he still has bad acme...) but no they only see the Big Girl, I can never go unnoticed when I enter the room.

I'm sure Marvin is charming and knows how to behave like a human being. It's just his family....

It can play out in different ways. When you lose the weight, they won't notice you or they'll make a big fuss and say more stupid things. At least the stupid things will be a new script. If they take the low, ignorant road next year, you can have fun planting wicked seeds. Whisper to one of them, "Did you ask Uncle John's wife if she plans on getting false teeth so that she can enjoy the turkey?" "Does Carla's boyfriend see a dermatologist?"

Just kidding, but you can have some fun thinking of ways to start trouble amongst them. At the same time, imagine them naked.

Lol yes

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Sounds like you carry yourself well....and they are hating because even though RIGHT NOW they're smaller than you are, they don't have that special something to pull off the things you wear. They really gonna hate when they see those pounds fall off and you up your swag even more!

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I can't wait either because none of them know what I'm doing

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And when they start talking the dumb stuff again, tell 'em to go play in traffic.....or to kick rocks wit flip flops on

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I feel this on a spiritual level. The fan favorite over here is, "You are so beautiful for a big girl!" I'm over here like That's swell give me a compliment and take half of it away. Thank you so much for gracing this "Big girl" with your attention. People are so careless with their words. But as it was said before confidence is the sexiest asset a women can have. Brush your shoulders off.

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By "big" girls they must have meant:

Beautiful

Intelligent

Gifted

Y'all just ignore ignorant people. Mine is nails and hair (which is true, my mama blessed me with both). But come on world. Don't be so bleeping rude/dumb/mean.

@@Raymia I'm sure you're going to knock their socks off and it'll be fun when you do!!+

Coming from someone that has always yo-yod with weight, I definitely feel you. As soon as I gain weight, one of my ugly a$$ family members or friends want to point out the obvious. I'm the clapback queen and have no problem with pointing out the flaws of anyone that thinks it's OK to mention the big girl. People can be rude... and you handled it very well. When you drop the pounds, they'll talk about that. There's no changing rude folks

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