Hello all. I received my insurance approval and an aiming to have surgery this month. My husband is aware of the surgery but he has NO idea how much I weigh. Yes, he could very well have an idea but I've never discussed it with him. He's 160 pounds or so and has never dealt with being overweight. My thought is that I will tell him my starting weight once I lose a lot of weight. Has anyone dealt with not telling their spouse? I know he'll be accepting of it but I still can't bring myself to tell him.

I have never told my fiance. He asks at times and I blow it off.

I ask him what he thinks I weigh. He always says WAY more than I really am but I have never told him. I expect him to find out on surgery day as I am sure the beds at the hospital will be the beds that weigh you.

I just had my surgery and it was a regular hospital bed, they had scales out in the hall and did weigh me daily during my walks but my husband wasn't there to see it. He does know what I weigh, we have been married almost 29 years, not too many secrets at our house.

I am surprised that I'm not the only one holding in the number! It makes me feel better! I will tell him one day but just not now. He is tall and around 160 pounds. It's hard to not feel overweight around him. I can't wait for the day when I (hopefully) weight less than he does .